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d.write("var wordMap = new Array(\" thomas abshier christian counseling with naturopathic medical scientific perspective portrait what expect? expect rational heartfelt thorough examination your problems problem-solution oriented approach with each session bringing significant increment completion toward goal understanding action thoughtful biblically consistent solution that will challenge inspire grow godliness maturity person engage enjoyable insightful analysis dynamics relationships deeply understand forces which brought current condition acquire tools help break hold past hurts vows training heredity examine scripture come stronger knowledge commitment faith process those vague fears dimly illuminated memories peace assumptions decisions have made about meaning purpose goals life compare patterns happy healthy in-love relationship learn make changes family society explore options available making right godly face various moral dilemmas learn skills adapt unique personality needs friends business where need attempt master lessons associated stage develop missing character embrace from physician degree electrical engineer bring blend right left brain therapies approaches counseling tried other counselors would like different style this effective physicians trained modalities healing resolving tensions situations important maintaining restoring body's bodys health while possible change often perceive respond disturbing circumstances sometimes feelings related metabolic hormonal toxic medical stresses such look client whole administering naturopathic treatments appropriate desired counselor people facilitate processing resolving comparing biblical pattern behavior their individual marital typically listen both partners hour spend hours couple allow enough time between patients more necessary finances consideration adjust accordingly meet limitations marriage balance causing stress then confront obtain agreement offer suggestions future recognize partner fact responsible pain upset even less offending still properly difficult situation observe individuals speak identify flaws weaknesses after obtaining propose homework designed produce attitude records success failure recorded throughout week review report next meeting redesign plan overcome difficulties failures because strong experimental physical sciences think terms cause effect operating system create experiencing listening carefully patient brings allows form metaphorical picture able hypothesis factors causes reasons upsets work team member facilitator resistance productive behaviors having deeply understood problem's intervene advocate development habits attitudes resources usually required possibly because capable culpable marriage requires many levels manifest fully mature vitality number degrees freedom shared appreciated interests activities conversation intimacy ability together spiritual communion children property thoughts insights observations theories experiences rapport confrontation change foundations meeting through polite romance resentment unsatisfied soul hurt estrangement family therapy overview strategies issues relationship negotiating handling angry outbursts addiction acoa alcohol drugs music step offense charting marital disharmony accountability feedback sexual dysfunction incompatibility mind definition diagnosis treatment strategy stress response outline cause effect coping exposition philosophy medicine home page send email \",\" directions office thomas abshier from downtown portland coming east i-84 exit gateway-halsey off-ramp just past i-205 south off-ramp straight when ramp goes into halsey approximately mile turn right onto 109th landmarks just prior 109th ave calamity jae's restaurant jaes restaurant 108th left 108 cafe joseph's josephs cafe home-office lots 1414 corner fisher's fishers northwest second house brick building east acupuncture third house office cute cape with green trim sign except small open door park driveway street north connected garage converted oregon city coming north glisan street going 102nd houses vancouver south immediately after overpass left right gresham surface streets west at calamity jae's jaes grill immediate building troutdale immedately \",\" personal background thomas abshier current profession naturopathic physician licensed 1989 christian counselor marriage growth occupational navy nuclear submarine officer engineering mobil angeles department water power carpentry sales small business teacher talk radio host counseling natural healthcare shows computer consultant technical writer natural medicine research digital recording educational ucla electrical 1974 naval school 1975 national college 1987 public service professional associations legislative committee lobbying legislation born july 1951 wife margo oregon resident since 1982 \",\" site click chapters essays below \",\" contact doctor-counselor thomas abshier 1414 109th portland 97220 9500 1888 office hours email drthomas naturedox websites doctorcounselor doctorsenator \",\" search type word click button \",\" rapport confrontation change thomas abshier three steps counseling cycle they both model everyday conversation pattern follow therapeutic intervention session stage active listening listening listen other person understand what they saying first level understanding facts what saying? when where repeat back said paraphrase form attempt capture most important points speak that will them know accurately captured their meaning second heart restate believe intent statement correct? were feeling? feel really you? motive reasons justifying opinion? motivated past pain habit current behavior comments? this been honest telling want? make notes want make present your point view after have fully understood partner's partners compliment partner tell much something makes sense would react like felt going happen before thought doing understood? take break minutes center yourself getting control emotional overwhelmed disoriented passionate say? same procedure above temptations improper conversational motives tactics responses methods demanding acceptance expecting heard without caring about immediate responses when there connection desire domination pressing agenda winning oracle truth demanding agreement with logic perception taking posture inferiority perspective therefore dominated position superiority only dominate reflective reaction buttons reminder time fear anesthesia using drugs sort cover relationship addictive projecting attributing projecting someone else negation assuming couldn't couldnt think because don't dont sincere abandonment leaving weapon trying hurt separation using statements people mind reading dishonest disclosure lying pretending sarcasm facetious patronizing minimization naive unimportant instant defense rationalization defense example argument challenge look belief comparison requests need solution? score? many times gotten often mine? pretending give giving admitting issue taking having yielding forgiving pleasing hard confrontation gentle tentative first defensiveness being asked question tentatively adopting behaviors action plans beliefs compromise plan between plans? gift? truly receive didn't didnt everything wanted just silent victim covert retaliation sabotage withdraw affection pretend agreed serve ammunition habitual harsh tones venting whenever lying actions feelings last modified 2001 \",\" romance love relationship thomas abshier resentment romantic love falls face unmet needs rebuilding after fall there still hope developing skills relationship possible bring back romance that once kindle flame never beginning \",\" family problems healthy communicates listens affirms supports another teaches respect others develops sense trust play humor exhibits shared responsibility right wrong strong family which rituals traditions abound balance interaction among members religious core respects privacy values service fosters table time conversation shares leisure admits seeks help with problems curran dolores traits minneapolis winston 1983 bible wives submit your husbands fitting lord husbands love wives harsh them children obey parents everything this pleases fathers embitter children they will become discouraged interpersonal relationship skills love forgiveness conflict resolution self-denial personal integrity caring biblical principles engaged taught modeled maturity spiritual growth robert salinger toward framework therapy journal psychology theology winter 1979 241-50 strategies resolving reduce stress learn better coping skills reframe situation light causes following difficulties obstacles solving habits behaviors attitudes tend prevent successful fact cause dynamic lack interpersonal sharing feelings --is there security household express emotions fears anger environment where free verbal interchange available welcomed? taboo topics --are certain discussion unacceptable money spiritual issues politics --taboo create areas safety danger that affect problem carried into later life --every topic should open honesty disclosure primary guiding fear intimacy --feelings --time spent together --lack other --difficulties handling crisis situations excessive undefined unspoken rules --have excessive caused loss individuality creativity rebellion? lack well defined given child inappropriate freedom make rules? hypersensitivity relationship cues? status avoided seeking outside fear losing status? --has being seen ordinary limited options flexibility maintain image? secrets --issues such illegitimate pregnancy retarded adoption previous marriage bankruptcy past history prison pride preventing honest sharing? --can failings glorified grow overcome? lost touch individuals? goals imposed more --goals good divinely ordained goals supporting made person human upon another? values held sacred --values tradition righteous source conflict when challenged --family always examination justification modification sufficient reason alliances against --alliances creates schisms alienation --each cast opinion judgment each scapegoating issue --focus attention enemy activity project distraction reasonable commitment solving takes --problems cannot solved take have desire spend negotiation role clarity does chores must clear --driving activities garbage laundry dishes bedrooms landscaping yard care house maintenance auto personality roles form response individual personalities power vacuum personality role jokester rebel scapegoat manager solver fix-it etiquette advisor planner party reversals occur --parent-child reversal care-taking nurturing coalitions coalitions parent parent-child over-involvement --the child's childs over-occupy sports schoolwork social environmental stability influences home --social unrest fire theft neighbors behavior member disrupts stability severe illness deserts engages criminal drug alcohol pornography addictions domestic violence financial pressures --moves demotions promotions mergers loans investments gambling shopaholism outside involvement --in laws ex-spouse ex-lovers mistresses business partners friends outlined modifications from christian counseling gary collins word publishing 1988 \",\" rebuilding romantic love regarding difficulties relationship following commentary elaboration some teaching principles philosophy willard harley founder marriage builders marriagebuilders central harley's harleys strategy renewing marriages stopping behaviors which diminish feelings romantic love such dishonesty annoying habits selfish demands angry outbursts disrespectful judgements human withdrawal reaction against these almost universal fact would that behavior something they want like have done them nevertheless humans engage don't dont anyway why? know scripture tells behave ways feel when receive treatment simply knowing wrong hurts sufficient make romans understand what hate agree good longer myself living nothing lives sinful nature desire cannot carry evil this keep doing does find work when right there with inner being delight god's gods another members body waging mind making prisoner within what wretched will rescue from death? thanks god--through jesus christ lord then slave clearly spiritual forces tempt emotionally hurt mates most pressure sufficiently overwhelming succumb times since problem core must apply solution only limited vision effectively universe thus ultimately faith trust battles fought serve submit ourselves slaves struggle oppose full obedience limp instrument without works james same itself accompanied action dead someone deeds show your show believe good even demons that--and shudder foolish evidence useless? ancestor abraham considered righteous offered isaac altar? actions were working together made complete righteously resist temptation illuminates boundaries enables distinguish between realms light darkness forces pulling into hearts flesh choice willingly committing servitude master force operating while maintain world guide give insight rightly judge thereby choose midst order aware those temptations come toward temptation word seduction tempted seduced pushed engaging love-damaging pressures appear follows blinded short term pleasure minimize consequences overcome need justice payback partner lesson rationalize retaliatory words speaking protecting space justifiable expressions anger pain emotions pride cause lose perspective focus inflicting return appears rational appropriate response heat conflict cost forgotten admonitions counseling christian principle aside character very strong yielding hurtful either initiating reacting should firmly commit always respond patience kindness perceived serviceful giving attitude mate focusing acting positive replace protective self-exalting thoughts ultimately plan further explore effect affection rapport love-diminishing they each reduce amount felt-love violated because repetition point becomes expected mode heart hope type death occurs silent abandonment insults name calling wound soul soul? verbal abuse bad? physical wounds been victim taunts jabs utter absurdity childhood chant sticks stones break bones never depreciating demeaning attitudes non-verbal language non-physical much pain? hurting? ability experience emotional intentional design feature embedded human created reflexively withdraw warns potentially damaging cease damage forever change responses life seen observable lesion levels areas body-spirit system changed emotional nervous reflex circuitry re-wired reflect automatic stimuli question where re-wiring taking place? body-mind brain machine responds makes connections breaks ones thus transforms previous reactivity? additional unseen metaphysical energy aura where pains also received definitive categorization substantive beyond perceive based reproducible empirical data given loose definitions spirit able concepts analyzing designing origin senses domain observer god-like essence enlivens true consciousness resides sensory capable perceiving activity observe innate mental generated neural emotions strongly influence commitments often dictate minds decisions values belief rather than dictates perceptive processing reactive understood nervous-system reacts circumstances generates various remembers lessons associated embed memory past result avoidance people situations attempt avoid stop lead habitual self trained habitually reinforce commitment just motive adding passion logical deductions provide supreme contribution significance humanity's humanitys without sensation experiences matter victorious defeating descend level mentally spiritually observation what's whats what? integral humanity passions whether attractive repulsive both reinforcement pain stimulate develop bring dependence fill behavioral holes unable efforts resign participating proactively creating better reality relationships strike back away stand learn grow teachings center overcoming natural crown waiting overcomes blessed perseveres under trial stood test promised tempting anyone dragged enticed then after conceived gives birth full-grown behaving face badly important goal purpose internal drive unite other half fullness drawn inexorably marital pair bonding avoiding their forced experiencing endless agony unless transform proper godly patterns peace coveted brass ring marriage negotiation process developing properly negotiating needs negotiate patient kind manner state requests honestly fully apology share wants expect acknowledged your discussion held truly spectrum wide subject individual interpretation frequency meeting negotiation make requests embody demonstrate posture asking gift property speak terms personal expression body tone likewise indicate statements covert passive aggressive retaliation realize person different concept produces noxious finds intolerable might acceptable desirable necessary couples understanding acceptance partner's partners profile producing recognize person's persons actually outside one's intimitely necessarily affect just separate uninvolved participant another method coping annoying appreciate view unique special cute rest impasse mutually exclusive separation territory certain area possible continue unacceptable continued offender willingness offended party unilaterally implement protect such message consequence measure require divine rearrangement state even appreciation idiosnycratic tastes best mate's choices prayer visualization oneself compromise ungodly alone totally size depends seriousness violation moral while impossible highly mature mentioned above battle time hardest civil commitment resolution foundational successful there underlying union happens fondness respect lacking more likely perfunctory power pain general signal attack modify growth warning deterioration disease constantly evaluating determine meaning represent combination growthful healing many consciously administered paddled prison unconsciously causes turn teaches calls unjust motivated intent harm caused random acts unconscious error embodying harmful whatsoever purposefully shape child student requires circumstance taken authorization play violator often could series events sequence reciprocal violations payment this trading become habit pattern experienced justification punishment hold onto self-righteous positions innocence forgetting vengeance perpetration neither claim position pure victims self centered universe omniscience largely unavailable disagreement blind recognizing self-centered problems related caught thing satisfied moment implications summary lost inside puts satisfy superior considerations evolves centered rules define defined things benefit whatever definition loss inconvenience negative destroy dishonesty selfish disrespectful prohibited produce payoff greater justified self centered universe honest cheat steal merely means fulfilling prime directive namely satisfaction suppress others engaged satisfying hesitation qualification meet passed upon confident pronouncement place superiority relational hierarchy tragedy whenever participates withdraws bonded resonant sustained incongruent warm safe retreats sharing incumbent express loving description hopefully offending recognize dealt timely harden future offense layer armor inherently inconsistent joyous vulnerable married bottom line moments handled before chance cool self-protective proactive quickly confrontation high deep submergence deeply attachment roots ownership space territory service versus slavery root comes taker instead giver long feels notice take perceives issue arisen resolved whole dynamic surrounding complex intended think themselves openly disclosure listening empathy from agreement reached scenario wanted meets valuable environment common felt projected though feeling example cream project having cone projecting motivations risky parlance called reading intimacy entering supposed knowingness thinking presume adamantly declare intents invasion sacred private sanctuary about deception self-deception strong denial imply inquisitor knows rather cues used deduce deceptions denials involved hard approach reflexive tool interpersonal leverage compliance direct outsider confronting greatest care holy enter ritual cleansing tentatively respectful sentence seems true? checking saying authority ownership over opposition telling confrontations invasive split parties ritual desires trespass psyche recognizes various signals triggered signs agitation rare sense freedom cases usually history soul's souls crushed hopeless connection obvious since taking removed stealth fraud bodies invaded violent privacy intimate sexuality appropriated consent labor demanded regard self-concept molded shaped demean value still defenselessness self-appreciation diminished demeaned whom hand serving respecting exalting worth admit incapable maintaining survival each survive manifest personally responsible effective reinforced daily outcomes results unpredictable control surroundings expectation virtually effectiveness agents responsibilities reserved sovereign great accomplish consistently overwhelmed realm opportunity going handle serenity accept wisdom difference those earth turned hands amidst relinquishing total disconnecting intense object sometimes required tangibly present effort plans having released cares responsibility wait listen watch next role available re-engaging solving answer during release resting until guided inspiration inspiration forms seemingly people offer perspectives solutions decisions limits previously intervention physically changes adapt permanent through accepting grief forcing methods leave room sovereignty releasing intangibles unknowables allows walk easy yoke deal harsh change bestowing edifying acknowledgements judgement acknowledge cater incorrect fundamental truth whatever lying speaker believed acknowledging says repeating said validated least impact asking modification delivery granted request getting crime humbly served chances minimal grateful non-demanding recipient beggar gratitude sacrificially touches respected appreciated servant asked manipulate realize easier refuse penalty ignoring humble refused frustrated pleas eventually angry fear controlled servicefully humble possibility willing service incentive services requested performed illustrates fresh appreciative transaction giving receiving honoring sacrifice angry outburst exchange acknowledgement alternate usual intensity rise becoming demand react indignation condemning unlovely presentation superficially spouse seem correct deeper analysis accurate culpable demanding performance outburst owner utilitarian tools objects manipulated desired outcome treat case administer violence perform primarily governed function mutual govern peers lovers friends associates springs base dynamics transactional first model poor modeling hypocritical first remove beam matthew anger seasoning little taste entire meal slow ephesians inappropriate actual real live beating sensitivity legitimate relationships stable equitable two-way other's challenge dealing equity controlling needy consideration along increased bringing outbursts coming similar addicted addiction started quite innocently addict controller forgive perpetrator bitter putting situation facilitates forgiveness progressed illness defect help afflicted heal helpful directly being detached drama pass affecting scaring executing inhumanly difficult academic workable trenches emotion directed plucks chord threatening mechanisms pro-survival neurologically wired automatically running attacking detaching caring empathic sees heard empathy losing yourself causing retaining larger number factors severity progression strength mild severe duration recently acquired longstanding incident gets shorter unreal watching video screen distance inability exhibition some drives aversions catch lure exerting compensation ineffective frustrations disdain processes places excessively exercising adopting image perpetually fighting dwelling exclusion else's elses already incorporated neurochemical fabric normal physiology ordinary significantly disrupt functioning feeling-state balance addictions flow everyday addictive neurohormonal central using drug capitulation slavish recovery substance disconnect entrainment biasing excessive psychoactive-neuroactive primary mistaken comply facilitate relieving disservice co-dependency helps allowing user excesses soulish capitulating threats tirades extremely painful alcoholic dt's syndrome confusion sweating shaking intense again symptoms small dose satisfactory relief part codependent concerned feeding unproductive supplier vein shoot capitulate especially selfishness isn't isnt enough whine shrink depression interaction abuser induced facilitator healer coach friend don't dont firmness condition essential brings compassion childlike helpless subservient roll rebellious infants firm discipline yours filling mate-therapist deprivation anger-object anger-addict soft spot fall healthy else fails drop arms loved humanity companions relinquish uniformly inevitably periods unsatisfying interactions confronted gently negotiations agreements implemented ongoing support codependency substitute motivation driving powerlessness emptiness trying confront source consider psychotherapeutic exploring traumas dramas possibly developed parent learned extreme born willed taught acknowledge particular apologize shortcoming duty promise take side restatement multiple layers underneath diffusing probing explanation discharge essentially responding statement after counter-offer table maximize form literally command missing lack combined delivered commanded typically integrated personality recognition psyche's psyches biochemistry piece machinery thrown begins imbalance goes increasingly manipulative typically difficulty resisting cycle assisting continues endlessly easily awareness free immediately extracted otherwise inevitable musical theory classifying classifications music correspond chords major minor happy scared frightened paradigm families relative grief jealous happy course laughter basically anything upbeat transformations movements unhappy barriers transition afraid stepping barrier cross reach hypothesize separated here revealed move attain goals happiness intimidate overt forceful attempts gain instead attempting ever-retreating hence reflection job's jobs lament fortune health feared dreaded happened alcohol drugs anesthetizing unhappiness terrifying deadening managing secondary supernatural will happiness arises proceeding transient reflective pull foundation drinking drink empty business finances behaved attained adequacy fundamentals possibilities comfort decide declaration can't cant remember worst happen allegiance heaven quote apostle paul philippians eagerly ashamed courage exalted mean fruitful shall choose? torn depart remain convinced progress dying probably won't wont current noted chose stay needed symphony orchestra today stuck righteousness every dwell lovely therefore looking forward backward fearing \",\" addiction issues quotes francis assisi serenity prayer step program steps bible verses acoa behaviors rock roll adolescent struggles with parents over music intelligent well mannered christian seduced control power addictive understanding temptations control personal political level \",\" loved rock roll thomas abshier 2001 history middle aged parents jeff sally their real names with late teen child john pseudonym have strong desire adopt godly values confront overcome temptations succumb passions flesh began exhibit patterns escape into private world early childhood christian girlfriend well liked school very articulate intelligent admits enjoying secular music great deal owns many cd's likes learn lessons life from lyrics conflict conflict arose because mother wants even repulsed that father relationship share participate close like when younger committed some significant moral transgressions past having time being feelings betrayal result withdrawn especially general does talk much more than hello yeah good-bye claims this separation necessary will lecture developed touchy attitude toward anything says expecting would critical doesn't doesnt hardly expects turn conversation ammunition should want listen they hear they feel evil implants ungodly soul seduced darkness fact resonates indicates lesson child must resist temptation easily offended parent's judgment spent years molding mind separating himself teaching pressures deception hiding going away been habit tools avoid punishment those traits become habits automatic reflexes focus listening repeating back sharing feels hurt vulnerable communicate what basis insights about songs make message give becoming immunized evil young person fairly familiar ways street smarts different spiritual wisdom iniquity attracted sights sounds unaware death degradation inside those gates normal pain brings alive allows think process emotions gives comfort know alone grow experience evils safe place where consequences experimentation minimized damage identified healed quicker when strays safety home still nest come another immunized against read stories lives people gone through various dramas overcame heartaches trials misadventures making decisions actually live important listening dramatizes dangerous method touching tasting music provides viscerally enter drugs passion what dwells upon likely foregone conclusion create fertile spirits inhabit messages anything done consciousness chosen avoided linger house human curious look there after taken better leave hearts serve them temptation? simply engage dwelling take analyze your insight looking once fruits then dwell instead fill heart good lovely righteous opposite quote scripture bring memory instead tempting seductive addicting trap parents need actively story interested challenges errors made there soft-peddle display personal anger other briefly displeasure disagreement actions obvious unnecessary continue hold angry posture acknowledged wrong anger directed spirit which embraced loved comforted fighting principalities powers rulers wish realize consciously allies attempt save destruction point independent care duty fear admonition lord challenge teach righteousness without breaking alienating case were afraid touched could their work rise above repulsion love anyway both extremely strict interpretation right engaged administered doing problem strictness finality left space convict move clearly expect thus healing arise works confrontation counsel example faith miracle transforming boy's boys behavior conscience course children rebellious authority totally destructive sold thinking ungodliness such category willing attempting seductions lifetime error part terms disciplined precocious nature combined unbending expectation perfect performance ground rebellion development secret idea seed planted grown unseen trying recover submission lord's lords child's childs inner state decay light force immediate often produces hardened change deeper permanent personality transformation slowly steadily coaching parenting kindness understand know unregenerate ultimately change provide boundaries restrictions rules areas harm located correction discipline maintain connection really fruit coming manifesting truly connecting loving this compliance primary until delivered little openness resolution given framework love guidelines rewarded homework assignment turning realizing drug power shape distort passed inappropriate relationships girls decided college possibly mission field year before started moved establish independence while john's johns stepped between improved written modified 2002 \",\" 	the twelve steps				 admitted were powerless over effects separation from that lives become unmanageable came believe power greater than ourselves could restore sanity made decision turn will care understood searching fearless moral inventory admitted another human being exact nature wrongs were entirely ready have remove these defects character humbly asked shortcomings list persons harmed became willing make amends them direct such people wherever possible except when would injure others continued take personal wrong promptly sought through prayer meditation improve conscious contact with praying only knowledge carry having spiritual awakening result steps tried this message practice principles affairs romans longer dwells know flesh nothing good present perform what find evil then wills phillipians therefore also highly exalted given name which above every jesus knee should those heaven earth under tongue confess christ lord glory father beloved always obeyed presence much more absence work your salvation fear trembling works both pleasure things without complaining disputing blameless harmless children fault midst crooked perverse generation among whom shine lights world holding fast word life rejoice vain labored beseech therefore brethren mercies bodies living sacrifice holy acceptable reasonable service conformed transformed renewing mind prove perfect grace everyone think himself ought soberly dealt each measure faith lamentations speaks comes pass when commanded mouth most high that well-being proceed? complain punishment sins? search examine ways back lord lift hearts hands james anyone sick? call elders church pray anointing save sick raise committed sins forgiven confess trespasses healed effective fervent righteous avails elijah like ours prayed earnestly rain land three years months again gave produced fruit brethren wanders truth someone turns sinner error soul death cover multitude submit resist devil flee draw near draw cleanse sinners purify double-minded lament mourn weep laughter turned mourning gloom humble yourselves sight speak brother judges judge doer there lawgiver able destroy another? john this heard declare light darkness fellowship walk blood cleanses deceive faithful just forgive cleanse unrighteousness sinned liar luke hear love enemies hate bless curse spitefully strikes cheek offer other takes away cloak withhold tunic either give asks goods want likewise love credit you? even same lend hope receive hoping return reward great sons kind unthankful merciful judge shall judged condemn condemned forgive pressed down shaken together running into bosom measured matthew 24-24 said 'you murder whoever murders danger judgment angry cause says 'raca raca council fool hell fire bring gift altar there remember something against leave before first reconciled come agree adversary quickly while lest deliver hand officer thrown prison assuredly means till paid last penny corinthians happened examples they written admonition upon ends ages thinks stands heed fall temptation overtaken common allow tempted beyond escape bear idolatry wise colossians elect tender kindness humility meekness longsuffering bearing forgiving complaint forgave must bond perfection peace rule called body thankful dwell richly wisdom teaching admonishing psalms hymns songs singing whatever deed giving thanks galatians trespass spirit gentleness considering yourself bear another's anothers burdens fulfill deceives rejoicing alone load taught share teaches from steps spiritual journey working guide adult children addictive other dysfunctional families based biblical teachings \",\" identification offenses can't cant identify describe change thomas abshier have patterns behavior habits personality traits character profiles processing methods that cope with stresses situations life each personal taste what pleases displeases some coping will probably irritate mate other words there often deep part strategy conflict mate's mates sense while good choose offended your mechanisms such wishful thinking advice irrelevant after already committed marriage thus only real solution where tension over engage combination acceptance behaviors establishing ones process involves cleaning bringing being about this that's thats hard took years become adults develop enough could function world it's just plain difficult habit when we've weve done many let's lets realistic takes time gripes clean old? won't wont away wishing usually praying make happen unless something remember it's faith works kind works? first step holds inventory stuff you've youve been holding inside forever against person want love simply causes much pain write down list think more when written documented don't dont hold onto anymore keep mulling proving were right justifying wrong horrible flaw boring boorish there area limits characteristics they nose small breasts jane face atrophied body those things charge then separate work giving help anyway must never learn changed we'll well later equipment offense appreciation charting loose leaf notebooks package notebook paper holes punched side page tabs stick edge first list make organization order severity limit censoring write every offense ever afraid single pages writing item detail know remembering past hurts currently still does used doesn't doesnt offenses forget forgive might given again because before elaboration elaboration each important offending listed --use full sheet really detailed describe hurt completely possible following what specific offensive duration occur? where severe irritating evaluation scale 0-10 rate offensive? reminder unpleasant interferes accomplishing goals desires space offends esthetics potentially unsafe threatening economically high consequences diminishing effects feel demeaned unimportant unloved disrespected abused would fill heart heal rest wonderful again? instead next applicable partner project going need look sheets felt deficiencies yourself offends explanation evaluation explanation offending party this direction meant give full sure safe discuss resolving easier than resolving elaborate --this exercise partner's partners necessary --examine even though finds hurtful --get like quit retaliate whatever reason honest really back didn't didnt doing wouldn't wouldnt even simple accident wasn't wasnt paying attention forgot whatever true --remember levels motivation payoff some came drives from childhood random picked here stay laziness naturally through changing value particular behavior? manageable result using strategy? evaluate importance investment whatsoever moderate integrated fully into vitally effort discipline impossible unattainable hardest pick habit? motivated adopt wants replace with? negotiating mutually acceptable accommodation both parties listing coming --put public private place appropriate situation option eliminate behavior offender request party without question qualification needs i'll everything reminded modify less frequent strongly manifested options chosen both explore other options find alternate optimum trade behaviors accept yours you'll youll mine recognize realize paid accepting hers return option perfectly suited keeping score track gave sacrifice involved least comes keeping complain superior document victim productive point system change just accept realizes misinterpreted able reframe understand context intent behind truly fact benign last modified 2001 \",\" process change counseling cycle includes very definite stages relationship these models everyday life interactions therapeutic intervention give roadmap smooth tools recovery when breakdown occurred rapport confrontation before behavior changed must identified when past offenses have been documented they aside processing appropriate time identification offenses charting categories monitoring change identifying blockages love behavior without rapport there connection compassion mercy goal connect level head with facts heart feelings known burden lifted because load shared should experience humility sharing until individual convinced error confrontation incomplete thus ultimately self-confrontation behaviors ways thought speech action ultimate create that meet needs understanding people habits interpersonal categorization personality familiarity type offense produce phenomenon call mind reading projection other necessarily person's persons habit demon projection offense last modified 2009 \",\" behavior charting preparation offense appreciation thomas abshier purpose provide tool that will allow rational well-documented fair basis rewarding good behavior well engaging conversations about changing tracking progress making those changes explanation every human being soul capable experiencing emotional pain hurt discomfort irritation wounds irritations invisible real provides method which hurts many sorts acknowledged commitment made engage attitude desirable agreeable both parties caution used justification revenge feeling superior leverage manipulate personal gratification this exactly opposite purpose heart demands justice quickest obtain give forgiveness after confession repentance changed restitution often marriage partners offended their mate's mates actions state there past offenses have been fully resolved confessed repented forgiven replaced then this offense seed resentment grow past unacknowledged healed cause reduction respect trust affection often people pretend forgotten though deal i've gotten over extent forget overlook another person's persons unless time sincere acknowledgement caused action with convincing expression intent stop future similar type party still harbor distrust place memory person must accept attempt repair damage change temptation keep using endless repayment debt endpoint life meant homework assignment track your mate keeping spent together recording times needs were compared yours order balance even procedures tools violation satisfaction intuitively obvious subconsciously incorporated into habit structures married couple satisfied marital relationship experience thus these train unhappy eliminate irritating behaviors meet each other's others model attitudes happy happily successfully blended individuals formed single third mutual organism they learned need individual pleasure associated giving service sacrifice other brings peace harmony true happiness arise avoiding willing enthusiastic performance producing rituals recognized some improper should some diametrically opposed partner meeting simple just doing whatever wants placed table examination negotiation there without question debate honest open self revealing transparent communication one's ones center process each candid revelation exposition when romantic lost love little apologies bargaining because anesthesia blinded eyes senses when routine normal life sets wears reality natural likes dislikes comes surface automatically first part developing deep elimination second step affinity based selfless serviceful committed arises develops longing desire make better mature appreciation scheduling activities elements practiced long they become automatic habits lessons struggles creating mutually satisfying already logging moments note something done record enjoyable sexual remember nice meal shared pleasant enlivening enlightening conversation camping traveling visiting friends movie show project house maintenance buying remodeling gardening hobby book read confrontation issues where compromises vowed given positions understood talent moral stand pattern reflects excellent character their stamina willingness continue duties opposition continued resistance boredom fatigue things does groomed nicely dressed effort makes body healthy care children chores ongoing earning money support household something accomplished difficulty overcame attempted overcome thing please working confronted movement toward reducing frequency intensity angry outbursts annoying day-to-day incident noteworthy note card pocket notepad carry transfer running list items appreciate write item date separate piece paper organize papers according category name upper right corner additional instances same appreciated transformation sheet discuss share patterns excellence weekly discussion review previous week's weeks events review start writing down every unresolved sense journal places date incident circumstances description only enough detail severity 0-10 moderate most severe sufficient importance merit explanation categorize page behavior charting estimate total number happened list come mind include ofnr data bring full understanding save pages loose-leaf ring bound binder passes recorded organize them categorized system subcategory falls under chronological resolutions commitments specifics take both scheduled regular weekly sunday evening acknowledge describe elaborate hurtful experiences words week hear understand acknowledge reasons level last modified 2001 \",\" rapport developing head heart connection foundation resolution thomas abshier hurt some must engage demonstration commitment that have changed attitude will accordingly modify behavior future restore your trust safety relationship first truly meaningfully deeply acknowledge fact know understand experienced pain hands care about want again enough change other words feelings needs important they when this level connection caring cause treated seriously action taken make changes what takes alter behaviors habits mistakes wrong purpose necessary inform eager begin transformation process myself meet need foundational principle knowing circumstances another person's persons struggle while feeling understanding their state thus when feel with love welfare person much combination love rapport ongoing requirement fully mature loving marital such deep common gift human soul usually associate such connectedness ecstatic intensity romantic infatuation even though unnatural most humans true fulfillment marriage step ladder toward ideally hearts would large connect each obviously physically impossible connected every earth mate inappropriate same intimacy single does diminish importance opening heart attempting contact this course brings question should give time energy casual pedestrian walking through life actual thought emotional those whom moderate peripheral basis protect ourselves against harm open everyone? clearly there people seek invade space there many given themselves over temptations payoffs evil discriminating learn come into lives establish protective barriers various sorts remove trustworthiness established appropriate limits place desires attention affection? establishing proper boundaries protecting coming distance held between vulnerable complete naked unprotected relationships necessarily less available terms sharing issues physical simply recognizing gradient categorize equilibrate expectations limits everyone extent attempt allow yourself ever deepening levels circumstance prudence dictates expect friend aware worthy keep depending allow experience bring closer patient seeds bonding circle more similar values don't dont unequally yoked protect from limiting proximity establish slowly quickly carefully conserve wise listen head trusted counsel recognize signs disturbed personality spirit unholy allegiance listen voice holy spirit warning getting close spend daily prayer meditation reading bible compare perfection constantly judge look always indications unbridled passion acceptance information advice opportunities favors careful seduced pleasure wealth power marriage realize intimate with times togetherness still aloneness recognize different just also continue imagine project pray able never stop being attempt embody perpective until actually passions interfere together trespass inevitably something mental tell otherwise been injured responsibility draw honest reasons were heard understood acted both sides speak honestly completely sincerely acknowledged both offender back demanding justice immediate reparation scenario ordinary parties because trespass sort offended immediately proceeds retaliate perceived precipitate battle since deserved punishment hence considers herself victim hence punishing retaliating defending force bludgeon unwilling serviceful submission idea resolution painful sincere statement party then trespasser caused action then replace friendly pleasing simplistic righteous solutions seldom executed overcome anger least keep pattern delay expectation remember sowing reap forgiveness compassion engage pursue touching mutually other's others means acknowledging partner's partners intentions motivations goals limitations strengths viewpoint going melding souls blending concerns mutual absorption surrender relaxation repulsion reality until very real discussion merely individuals opposing points view create outcome favorable respective individual interests without present which hurts violation probably exercise winning prevailing convincing right felt only self serving best possible rational fair exchange rule happens automatically depths soothe heal underlying disease negotiating under peaceful significance normally think where wants effort made satisfy those spiritual overriding desire beloved's beloveds foundation meeting another's anothers openness vulnerability receive prevent becomes secondary long concerned survival really absorb embrace freedom putting down hear fullness again giving possibility receiving steps creating understand perspective each seen having respected history genetic heritage brought them point currently advocate particular habit reaction actions reactions rationality perspective validated within system feelings tangible universal drive strongly rationality often based upon suppositions beliefs nature rather than absolute necessity taste preference fears aversions turn motivates called choice governed choosing options minimize maximize scale either short long-term payoff gotten regarding thoughts phase respect individuality matters taste style claim moral superiority request partner only clear ethical god's gods high ground claimed unequivocal capitulation demanded justification defense required preferences accommodation modification rejection wins negotiation decision examination balance credit deficit taking served enter general deadlock evaluating occurs appeal outside authority judging fairness righteousness often skewed normal imbalance identified facilitator mediator serial active listening completely whoever starts talking paraphrase said phrase you're youre saying paraphrase right? absolutely meant intended speaker restate elaborate correct communication satisfaction progressive parallel upset arises signals progressively person chosen random start role last total minutes agreed participants timer recommended length limited conclusion recitation problem preferably using ofnr method speaking limit repeat-back mirroring active listening explaining ventilating blame victimization unfairness disappointment fear minute includes elements objective reality facts situation objective needs reasons believing justified request speech patterns commitments attitudes vision speaking repeat backs after un-mirrored ventilation completed second segment says thing after concept asks phrases repeat spoke checking participatory conversation validating accuracy elicit like what mean you? tell does sense that? take floor repeats accurate lets content continues elaborating connecting current past concepts lessons worries paints verbal picture internal landscape repeating goes stops abruptly without completion during commentary personal corrections attack inaccuracy insensitivity mistaken unfair trying convey wanted logic motivating roles forth ultimate understands logically reasonable acting thinking reverse reversing believe totally known recognition reached allowed expired schedule successful negotiation intent happen full acceptable upon conviction sooth wounds declaring intention violations type comes offense standards accept renewed framework approach domination control might argument forms yelling withdrawal support threats violence superficial couple enthusiastic agreement winning forcing goal confronting seeking break hardness thus enlarging reason offense? likewise walls irritation shoes growing stretch body mind married escape satisfactory solution engaging consciously well critical asking myself? continue negotiate acts thinks certain ultimately adopt last modified 2001 2009 \",\" confrontation dealing with offense hurt anger injustice hurt created after violation makes impossible simply forgive forget without repentance debt being paid must either transferring another payment restitution with offenders there gradient intent culpability seriousness violence intentional malice gleeful evil revenge administration just punishment training justice mischief entertainment petty violations property reputation accidental careless action causing bodily harm damage hurtful words emotional pain aggressive hurtful body language gestures tones spiritual curses violations same level importance some severe that threat safety great continued relationship would violate commandment honor temple given other there requirement physically abused spouse maintain shared residence culpability multiple reasons person want space human many factors contribute passions feel which turn cause manner non-relational misbehavior serious judged criminal societal institutions largely deal this behavior removal strong offenders from public life more benign physical psychic live among torment those around them impunity extremely self-righteous insist sensitive mistaken their perception offense self-conscious self-critical themselves recognize slightest hint disapproval such people tend victims first type often pair together couple needing right feeling deserving criticism everyone offends someone else story reason strengths weaknesses understood heard much person's persons feelings offended never assumed reflexively axiomatically accused fact abuser space-invader culpable party general assume complaint self justification both parties have some negotiating area undeveloped affinity rapport blending understanding bonding when compassion forgiveness because know weakness flesh consider following diminish ability behave perfectly godly states reduced mental illness disorders usually diagnosed infancy childhood adolescence retardation learning motor skills disorder communication pervasive developmental disruptive behavior feeding eating early elimination delirium dementia amnestic cognitive disorders dementia alzheimer's alzheimers vascular head trauma parkinson's parkinsons huntington's huntingtons substance amnesia medical condition related alcohol amphetamine caffeine cannabis cocaine hallucinogens inhalants nicotine opiods phencyclidine hypnotic sedative anxiolytics schizophrenia psychotic paranoid disorganized catatonic delusional brief psychotic induced disorder mood depressive bipolar anxiety panic agoraphobia agoraphobia specific phobia social phobia obsessive compulsive posttraumatic stress acute generalized condition induced viii somatoform somatization conversion pain hypochondriasis body dysmorphic factitious dissociative fugue identity depersonalization sexual gender identity anorexia bulimia xiii sleep dyssomnias insomnia hypersomina narcolepsy breathing sleep circadian rhythm parasomnias nightmare terror sleepwalking impulse-control intermittent explosive kleptomania pyromania pathological gambling trichotillomania adjustment depressed mood anxiety disturbance conduct personality schizoid schizotypal antisocial borderline histrionic narcissistic avoidant dependent obsessive-compulsive genetic defect family heritage chromosomal parents drug fetal syndrome crack baby possession spiritual allegiance pagan religion false gods experience past trauma childhood abuse abuse physical accidents surgery illnesses family spoiled undisciplined unwilling accept limits restrictions excessively disciplined timid afraid take risks puffed praise diminished harsh societal standards education indoctrination school growing under wrong oppressive social economic models taliban ussr brainwashing cult religions taste preference next category substance center originates everyone sense ownership propriety about they occupy time what include organize handle certain amount individuality fairly cultural norm considered socially acceptable organization individual tasteful objects consciously organized versus randomly scattered exact preference vary large enough sampling each culture will show typical gaussian distribution central mean probably differences preferences between cultures undoubtedly taste esthetics found desirable within problems arise disagreements fill dispose when free society sufficiently loose broad spectrum tolerated legal system codification restricted proper members offenses handled informal every close such roommates work crew business partners rules made police detect offenses courts judge jury sentence executioner prison guard extract group gathered anytime common compromise avoid offending space-sharing-partners invasions rape murder theft embedded into psyche catalogued commandments part most basic interpersonal subtle where place knife fork given near infinite number circumstances could generated nearly categorize rules thus jesus governs interactions luke 25-28 expert religious stood test asking question teacher receive eternal life? replied what does moses say? read answered 'you love lord your heart soul strength mind 'love love neighbor yourself right told verse effect said neighbors ourselves this been translated golden rule unto others important tangible follow laws regard fellow humans verifiable loving treat treated simple parameters measure god's gods best please problem comes different desires resolve conflict negotiate each advocates himself give only necessary real fullness really possible tolerate stretching grows treasure deposited confrontation becomes expression informing partner need assistance soothe administer help signal come limit giving enrich sacrifice pleasure served done kindness humility gentle disclosure viewed stigma against lifted confronting might longer fear instead rather than exposure flaws thus humble placed position ahead risk vulnerable confront disclose don't dont won't wont remember care gentleness people serve sincere everything thomas abshier last modified 2001 \",\" creating change negotiation goal negotiation establish commitments regarding future performance that acceptable both parties find what specific behavior could replace offensive agree work establishing habit pattern each these areas practice after been requested agreed upon modeled offended partner necessary commit spend time week reviewing violation checklist offense this must done with purpose spirit attempting behaviors will meet other's others needs discuss understand elaborate item listed being hurtful otherwise disturbing fully situation examine violator engaged this particular action recognize there positive every choice fact deluded serving darkness doing seen useful productive some fully hurt pain receiver violation understand perceived behavior modification shape from give appreciation small step toward changed intention vows note deficiency withhold approval reinforcement give disapproval correction repeated wrong unchanged administer punishment rebellious purposefully destructive goals prior beginning training agreement established trainee unaware trained then simply appropriate times learn subconsciously method used animals children cannot cognate concepts correct modeling demonstration desired situations where personal style issue example tone voice gestures procedure task phrasing pronunciation manners should follows identify something want change made demonstrate describe teach show offender practice party judge whether adequate praise improved again close perfect continue practicing until reached stable level your establishing creating love affinity sharing common interests spend listening understanding participating about work effort planning dreaming together sacrifice individual attain developing affinity habits dreams support cheerleader mate's mates helping stay track rejoice victories defeats enjoying pleasant experience conversation projects enjoy other sexually purposefully those things enjoyable overcoming enduring hardships supporting emotionally physically overcome sickness loss financial limitations reversals blending incomes resources \",\" charting categories template examples thomas abshier organization body mind spirit subcategories major category specific types offense this offense appreciation system note offensive behavior done your partner sheet paper record each specific leaving garage door unlocked speaking unkind tone angry outburst thoughtless mistakes forgotten obligations careless attitude resulting something breaking messy room chores place loose-leaf binder under appropriate subcategory record individual page following information estimate total occurrences that particular during entire relationship frequency range frequencies violation week month year duration #days weeks months #years recollection most significant instances personal sense significance using 0-10 scale below this should twice different sheets offended person's persons perspective story offender's offenders situation additional after item been described terms past characteristics frequency often happened past? acceptable never does ever occur issue once every occurs moderately days hours several times hour always continuously unacceptable severity importance significance taste disturbance vaguely aware noticeable occasionally notice moment aware don't dont dwell definitely catches attention moderate annoying important irritating disturbing wish would stop cases distraction focuses must change causes internal discomfort barely tolerable consuming emotional physical mental pain much longer severe debilitating absolutely intolerable resolved compromises possible making list valuable transforming exercise itself have benefit there negotiation about where both parties heard understood there sharing deep understanding what actually happened? were perceptions seen parties? reasons motivations behind offending behavior? motivation consciously present inside offender? projected assumed person? party? organizing entries into natural order organize them headings write heading name heading name upper right corner inner spiritual attitudes beliefs alliance christian born again committed radically saved mature experienced life word bible believing protestant catholic amish mennonite baptist presbyterian growing young immature some many areas nominal actively pursuing growth uncommitted agnostic atheist evolutionist nihilist existentialist humanist scientist eastern religion sikhism hinduism buddhism bahai islam shinto cults scientology moon jones rajneesh vedanta society rama krishna yogananda hare earth worship native american mystery religions masonic rosicrucian cabala magic witchcraft wicca tarot astrology divining crystals worship hedonism drugs rock roll money power satanism conscience godly conscience holy spirit habitual implant action reading commitment righteousness practice learning error correction discipline lukewarm acceptant almost everyone tolerance primary standard only upset people tolerate everything cold hard seared scarred walled cold unreceptive erroneous following wrong spiritual guide good intent poor discrimination evil dedication rebellion against feel pangs doing evil fruit fruit love peace longsuffering gentleness goodness faith meekness temperance such 22-23 human immediate pleasure survival happiness ease anti-fruit hatred unhappiness disquiet impatience harshness doubt pride excess morals based long term payoff structure human soul purpose maximal anyone hurt satanic reversed morality strategy obtain larger anti-god delay memory perfected memory remember what needed reminded prompting methods tools deficient learning disabled forgetting erroneous recall suppression avoid unpleasant tasks block images feelings overwhelming trauma debilitated living unable learn anything from genetically deficient drug induced damage brain circuitry disenabling brain's brains functionality focus inattention obsessive flighty processing logical sequencing rules processes temporal occurrence events laws limitations generalization blending together multiple categories situations principles maintain limited inaccurate concept reality deletions ignoring forgetting blocking data distortions changing rearranging emphasizing perception accurate recounting misperception heart will commitments vows intentions hope attitude discernment imagination emotions anger chronically angry suppressing anger stuffing volcanic rage blow-ups ventilation tones pervading speech attitudes flaccid inappropriately accepting guilty saying nice lash loved ones fearful anxious worrying fearless reckless taking chances detached aloof non-feeling frigid caring mechanical stoic inappropriately attached clinging possessive depressed unhappy joyless hopeless dark gloomy manic hyper enthusiastic un-humanly tireless prideful self-righteous haughty prideful arrogance conceited stuck delusions grandeur inferiority complex self depreciating esteem hurt emotions acting receptors loss grief sorrow hope health possessions diminishment value belittlement personality disposition character approach changeability rigid uncompromising hyper-flexible unstable mutable risk taking dare-devil adventuresome aggressive conservative cautious extrovert introvert judgmental acceptant intuitive concrete actions mannerisms behaviors ticks grunts talking expressions expression blank expressionless spaced hyper-expressive exaggerated social graces manners table manners elbows smacking lips fingers chewing with mouth open eating fast controlling body sounds excessively other hypersensitive annoying habits repetitive behaviors hand washing checking lights locking smacking table popping joints picking hair trichotilomania nails skin wiping counters saving things checking stove locks unawareness paying else while task clumsy unaware objects others insensitive needs unaware propriety protocol required inappropriate environment careless making energy level never stops excessively positive impaired judgment excessive risk-taking depressive little life-energy enthusiasm speech listening phrases colloquialisms mispronunciation profanity obscenities blasphemy degrading comments lying puns inappropriate humor serious repetition stories point words hearing tone voice loud yelling angrily sarcasm condescending breaking promises speaking non-love \",\" elements psyche major divisions human spirit pneuma greek word breath soul sukeh animal life body brain perceptive apparatus processing system presentation reaction soul perception spirit heart cardia heart connection between general areas human experience being doing structural components mind will emotions modalities expression words tones gestures posture gait tension physiology actions inner states processes from which spring expression pain hurt irritation thoughts feelings past hurts memories those both conscious reflexive genetic inborn nervous based preferences sense intent prayer faith commitment spiritual alliance polarize person against another differing allegiance these communicate inner state outer world through these modalities that irritate please fellow general probably react most strongly overt actions words tones also more subtle communication namely this psychic soul-to-soul spirit-to-spirit channel clear profoundly accurate \",\" projection being critical person mirror misdirected criticism even though soul-soul spirit-spirit direct perception possible sense connection knowing another person's persons heart filtered contaminated with sounds feelings thoughts tone one's ones soul thus when person irritated more modalities expression words tones gestures actions that irritation actually reflection issues such hypersensitivity imbalance immaturity spiritual alliance such reaction illustrative jesus' jesus admonition take beam first before attempting remove from your neighbor's neighbors matt while appear other violator needs adjustment cleansing given subjective nature soul's souls judgment situation best approach confrontation irritating behaviors respectful tentative posture statements feel hurt what said would please future? seems acting feeling balance there something going around this issue? type ineffective then necessary bring outside witnesses judge independently this principle authority accountability independent witness limitation method anyone seen original event behavior question only based upon stories told accuser accused testimony valid since necessarily limited observation interactions than inevitable bias introduced those testify against \",\" relationship errors some behaviors violate natural god-given laws relationship examples this type violations include make promises break them even smallest inconvenience change heart being late forgetting dates keep commitments others communicate disrespect avoid confronting hurts there problem sweep under don't dont seek help solving problems build without resolution withhold power control seldom praise acknowledge appreciate don't dont give time attention everyone except your partner ever compromise alternate capitulate accommodate needs mate when talks channel surf read paper interrupt with thoughts always planning exit strategy forgive remember leverage getting maintain unpleasant attitude around immediately switch moods talking other people obviously such kind produce sense separation alienation feelings opposite romantic love these arise result unmet passive ways communicating hurt disappointment dissatisfaction quality able meet must still care appreciation immature flawed unskilled incomplete when violates god's gods letting handle issue convicting sympathize understand weakness character that results violation communicate need understanding righteousness goal producing particular behavior painful keep sharing perspective listening hers create powerful atmosphere mutual have sympathy deeply convicted profound personally owned conviction been then identify behavioral goals will work together team support development habits change process takes involves many small steps much repetition different circumstances have patience celebrate victories accept personality traits rise level live inside acceptance uniqueness individual beauty being realistic principles happiness transformation personal humble best efforts only aggravation instead 2009 \",\" politics theology thomas abshier gave america gift freedom return commitment godliness when turn from personal loving relationship with freedoms will eventually away without godly self-regulation allow operate freedom privilege bear arms protect ourselves resist oppression tyrants lose right self-determination choice legislators judges executives reject heaven choose religion assemble redress grievances against government speedy trial mobilize form public opinion press speak heart issues truth restore adult character most important factor choosing elected officials ideas programs flow well character direct decisions judgments leadership leaders should their considerations perspective consideration biblical principles search been difficult rewarding raised devout baptist child strayed faith searched adolescent young early middle returned jesus finally understanding necessary that create world sacrifice having traveled paths many religions sects cults traditions enabled understand breadth human experience worship result seeing good people different embrace humanity respect other considerable after long spiritual pilgrimage have come peace calling lord engineering basis life approach training electrical engineer ucla foundation reason experiment demand every problem solved reasonable cost effective methods expect forces involved identified addressed solution determined rational analysis every system limitations possible bring optimum which limited resources american economy such currently there virtually unlimited demands sector special interest entitlement mentality overrun capacity working burden fall roman empire resulted when leisure class voted itself bread circuses oppressive taxes rest society contributed great nation collapse creative sectors adequately rewarded contributions spirit individual broken little reward proceeds effort work soviet union proved redistribution wealth results generalized poverty free market only succeed property rights respected workers retain sufficient quantity fruits labors book america's americas real rabbi daniel lapin seattle gives historical proofs flat allows worker keep earning seems rate stimulate prosperity special interest groups pork barrel distorted political process federal legislation establish environment conducive productivity protective national toward solving long-term problems naturopathic physician learned view holistic dynamic complex cause-based combination life-science hard-science background equipped somewhat unique nature operating biochemical minutiae while same time cell tissue organism each level between levels arises naturally engaging open minded study facts operation prejudice relaxed large this life-view prospering submerge myself into inner parts able identify part interfering function solver thinker negotiator move once idea true matter communication action before becomes reality christian counselor facilitated witnessed growth successful living seen fractured relationships restored addictions conquered overcome defeated ineffective learn govern themselves proceed success healthy habit extend beyond bounds couple family counseling session they must philosopher scientist used doctor counselor formulating solutions first observe situation fully consider issue light worldview life's lifes logic analyze best outcome participants communicate confront together mutual agreed upon plan manifest then revisit regular intervals until solid found these steps compose universally applicable strategy counseling deepest struggles trials given window soul answer always some submit hearts christ these produce because bible reflects highest metaphorical expression within hologram perfect patterns health social organization greatest earth authority together knowledge heavenly insight efforts proper governance limit actions biblically consistent possibilities engage hope follow \",\" sexual issues thomas abshier sexuality tightly entwined with survival proper right family bond insures that most fundamental unit society perpetuated both economic fulfillment emotional needs commitment companionship while sexuality does necessarily lead procreation very procreative essence made sexual desirable body experience opposite inherently enjoyable optimum enjoyment desire those experiences first finest fruits vital love thus when hurts accumulate degenerates response decay into neutral interest relationships deteriorate unskillful communications selfish hearts purposeful thoughtless unmet turn aversive rehabilitating marriage important consider relations diary satisfaction help solve problem being sexually unfulfilled keep diary this valuable helping identify aspect which weak healthy life bonding point glue keeps couple together seldom psychic-emotional sufficient without other intangibles such common interests vision mutual other's others presence contribution \",\" diary sexual satisfaction thomas abshier this list guide creating diary your sexual experience when having problems area compatibility recording facts document past enjoyment reflection memories good times marriage it's great bonding point look back private shared life's lifes most special sacred between woman there helps sense reality attempting solve problem unmet needs needs following questions making present experiences record each intimate dedicated rate quality make note subjective satisfaction both husband wife should record commentary list tastes often want slow love quick release favorite positions other tastes environment location time lead-up level need hate makes never need drive don't dont care can't cant perform enjoy feel like with person take leave like have then very important fantasize about session lovemaking 						 date time duration foreplay intercourse adequate quality 1-10 average description positions activities attitudes 							 comfort perception level what does partner think together? would comment interest sex? relationship influencing desire nagging accusations listening unfair monetary practices sarcasm criticism lack common interests stress other relationships competing affection body shape undesirable \",\" prayer saint francis assisi lord make instrument your peace where there hatred love injury pardon doubt faith despair hope darkness light sadness divine master grant that much seek consoled console loved giving receive pardoning pardoned dying born eternal life amen \",\" emotional issues stress response humans respond stress behave badly rise peak their performance meet understanding anger many causes used righteousness unrighteousness \",\" stress response				 primary trauma secondary types chronic effects stress possible stages response coping with healing from trauma personal vicarious experience traumatic event physical psychological pain associated initial primal seed which evaluate future similar circumstances having experienced thus enables other events non-traumatic some considered because memory emotional body reactivation that personally witnessed likewise create primary fear harm arises proximity increases likelihood viewing also bring memories feelings past media viewing expand personal reality increase believed possibilities implant images have resonance resolution ultimately every whether viewed vicarious must into perspective until process placing engaged nothing will adequate release invasion space damage property violation damage theft violence against risk posturing showing capable doing willing object your harmed property ownership obtained labor gift connected self manner identification lesser extent identify strongly consider intimate vital almost inseparable part giving life energy something puts position having invested hence identified god's gods plan perfect theft violates those laws law? given charged surviving learning love others protecting keeping maintaining innate first learning highest purpose demonstrate obeying true spirit helps survival comfort pleasure employment type work giving another person turn expect give their services products taking worked appropriating benefit without them appropriate acceptable compensation there negative spirit demons spirits released punish extract fairness equity vengeance sowing reaping built fabric action spiritual forces manipulate unseen balance scale similar visit thief guilt psychic torment about offense authorities capture convict imprison supernatural arrangement precipitate injury health monetary loss lost opportunity relationship bodily physical abuse pain receptors stimulated functional structural threat bodily even hasn't hasnt happened before imagined being again same already been generalized fear people situations frequency intensity sensitivity overpowering invading private leaves sense vulnerability after unsuccessful defense feels helpless faith ability defend invasion thus greatest one's ones belief what possible insult demeaning characterizations destructive criticism mocking downs making implants image possibility sacred faith hope children weak concept impressionable influence beliefs crippled diminishes potential accomplishment sexual contact invited understood conscious assent childhood sexual inappropriate universally outside natural order early foundation feeling powerlessness inability protect govern satan this improper premature awakening wrongness particular behavior isolation reactive hyper-expression various implanted heart promiscuity inferiority hopelessness depression causes behaviors biasing thoughts emotions done recovery requires rebuilding confidence willingness overcome strong mental voices shout can't cant you'll youll hurt reprogram mind expectations hope sufficient effort support prayer knowledge task level while cannot read person's persons condition resonate safety violated presence threat trust openness damaged experiencing group could friends family town nation planet survival threatened somewhere happen anywhere maybe here loved breaking interpersonal bonds death irritates susceptibility ptsd through long term sequella early counseling helping allows just retained current though ongoing sleep dreaming appear times when rewires resets itself pray protection divine guidance listen direction know voice aware ways reading bible regularly best learn ultimately charge evil happens free universe good evil dedicated purposes eventually produce greater remind traumatic imagery avoidant appearing reactivation memories helplessness opening wounds experiences then easily opened closed healed they simply forgotten displaced crowding time processing attempting come peace where offender perpetrator tormented remorse condemnation reprisal resolution confession reparation repentance coming commitment never offend understand victim what meaning event? random? deserving repayment done? working will? world? have unwise judgement risks situation? need prevent perpetrated environment ready rehearsed certain hold easy know expected save always stressed lose clues warned danger realize random warning prepared relax grace responsibility yourself unknown unknowables providence things hiroshima oklahoma city there truly victims responsible befell preparing strategies occurring perspective putting proper significance some acting together disasters mechanical failures cars airplanes boats natural disasters tornados hurricanes floods earthquakes forest fires lightning snow hail buildings dams towers coincident attention drivers arrive point collide random attraction between fall genetic birth defects character people's peoples hearts mass murders serial rapists terrorist activities vandalism mugging revenge tyranny concentration camps actual repaired further prevented susceptibility defenselessness tissue exit area doing happening threats look situation judge call associates confidants trading partners dwelling upon produces activation activation deal real avoid distant remote distracting debilitating adrenal hormone cortisol dhea provides increased blood sugar muscles awareness brain fight flight response sympathetic nervous system epinephrine epinephrine breath rate reduced digestive circulation motility flow allowing rapid cognition heightened acute insults death loss divorce illness assault robbery financial bankruptcy investment failure irritations illness being bedridden very stressful limiting reducing dreams duty limb debility handicaps needs metabolic deficiency fatigue depletion addison's addisons mental deterioration alzheimer parkinson's parkinsons neurodegenerative diseases brain cell dementia elderly circulatory strokes post cabg bypass surgery drug alteration function recreational anxiety mood drugs lithium schizophrenia lifestyle business payroll taxes sales inventory management deadlines legal troubles audits mergers promotion demotion transfers layoff hiring mortgage rent utilities credit card debt bankruptcy vacation travel holidays parent friend spouse social school exams graduation finding promotions demotions malnourishment anorexia cancer deprivation marital relationship difficulties child rearing problems truancy drug pregnancy disrespectful energy often precipitated episode severe prolonged fibromyalgia episodes sleeplessness especially insomnia days more immune infection immune activity depressed poor recognition defective cells cancer grow unchecked allergies recurrent infections cognitive memory concentration diminished disorders nightmares sleeplessness gastointestinal irritable bowel syndrome crohn's crohns disease ulcerative colitis stomach ulcers nausea vomiting nervous compulsive eating flatulence psychological claustrophobia agoraphobia anxiety stimuli panic attacks disorder extreme disabling consuming irrational panic sensation dying doom immanent peril over reaction sensations depression sadness weeping hopelessness despair withdrawal flashbacks waking nightmares hallucinations vivid fully occupy consciousness anger control angry outbursts angry attitude reflexive anger many most behavior disorders cardiovascular angina palpitations hypertension musculoskeletal arthritis back headache migraines tension headache neck shoulder tension skin hives inflammatory mast lodged skin releasing inflammatory cytokines causing large wheels within minutes eczema allergic component psoriasis cellular proliferation aggravated pruritus itching various spots impotence vulvodynia vaginal syndrome resistance exhaustion well take daily deal going hands rest arms confess wrongs wronged repent forgiveness trespasses debts work hard reward engage positive social interactions marry productive useful stable employment spend circle learn married exercise therapeutic prescribed recovery after accident therapy massage deep muscle relaxing stimulating range movement challenging limits restriction stretching ligament tendon stretch only flexibility slightly farther toning rehabilitation training toning muscle building aerobic long distance impact burning lung walking biking swimming skiing sport slow speed below 220-age less rule thumb should able talk pausing pant breathe anaerobic strong exercise short bursts high output deeply rapidly careful joints overstress engage such heavy this therapeutic excreting metabolizing hormones breathe deep erect don't dont cramp lung-space slow breathing inhale exhale accompany visualization exhaled strength abdominal diaphragmatic lungs pushing extending contracting abdomen develop interests hobby avocation skill music collecting sports crafts writing reading watch play classes broaden understanding world read books write letters maintain friendships reach share keep involved news larger society find problem bigger than proper nourishment hydrated glasses supplement multi vitamin mineral trace enzymes acidophilous fiber zone moderate combination protein fats carbohydrates calories special nutrients organ herbal adaptogens withania panax eleutherococcus calmatives valeriana avena cimicifuga paassiflora humulus scutellaria tilia nutrient 5htp pyridoxal phosphate magnesium niacinamide tyrosine complex homeopathic remedies arnica bach flower phase emergency incident starting moment emergency ambulance hospital operation stabilization police called evidence taken reports made post 8-12 weeks grips reliving questioning denial really hoping away trying forget looking someone blame going symptoms hyper-arousal urge restoration gradual takes emotional spiritual patient expectant thankful gentle observe nourish food word lessening with naturally decays normal tincture cures ills fade currently irritating activating gradually normally focuses implementation program talk spend suffering support commiserate share make relive accept gone successful wisdom healthy state shock gain re-establish habits fill ordinary extraordinarily painful life these kinds moments consumed dwelling excessive preparation avoidance pains grieving healing grief emotion necessary embrace suffered losing anything tangible intangible cause grief possession home innocence control reputation limb beauty disaster displacement alienation essentially assimilating accepted final remnants embraced fill divinely feel attachment possessions abilities territory when attachments broken remembrance followed reestablishing skills honor recognize impossible exactly replace contribution place held leave abandon simply present expect blessing richness ally survivors groups committed dealing form consider using establish purpose found better care walk stretch recreational balanced nutritious foods supplements induced losses stay stressors getting chilled stay damp environments wind elements depresses infectious vectors hours sleep during afternoon noon meal allow repair demand disturbing thought replacement therapies ideas positivity want become memorize scripture dwell words pray deeper insight scriptures distract enjoy visualize wish fears praise disturbed live expectation beginnings change transformation freedom counselor persist pattern disrupted sure proof cleaner settled result conversation counseling issues were thoroughly processed stuff reframes places meaningful context adapt inspiration important view overall outcome blessed please send comments thomas abshier document updated 						 \",\" understanding anger stimuli motivations want change things make different don't dont like expresses frustration people move frustration *desire something done outcome elusive *competence desire most natural reaction when going think they should reaction irritation *anger pain *habitual soul emotional irritation wanting *things control they jump express anger gives feeling power control *need compensate sense powerlessness *fearless thought about personal injury consequences *recognition that respond with fear controlled feel helpless incompetent inadequate know perform properly it's irritating painful helplessness *inability life *little talent training skill *frustration inability i've gotten habit reacting every time addiction emotional *successful strategy *family modeled response approach *high personal *trauma event imprinted taken much abuse everyone else won't wont take anymore just exploded explosion *everyone dumping wanted jeopardy work safe place where cannot rejected family explode totally inappropriately yelling leaving violence when enough finally angry have energy actually motivator mess hard find stuff *job needs boss putting pressure *the increases internally externally react moving afraid realize small cover *inferiority *bravado attack facade others first keeps them guard *pretense superiority been frustrated never showed good christian turned other cheek ulcers turned inward *long term *felt wrong morally power-hierarchy *letting person situation dominate *attempting saint *feeling victim *body systems activate tissues overload decay whenever drink this overwhelming spirit come over neurochemical phenomenon *allergies brain inflammation food airborne allergens chemicals *drugs medications direct stimuli centers body alcohol seems acts happen learned behavior spiritual curse giving family heritage pattern *genetic inheritance neurological tendency *friends environment employees situations trauma hate wife husband popular women enjoy attention responds such enthusiasm interest expression love protection possession seen justified appropriate teaching tool righteous punishment perceived flirtatious attitude actions *exaggerated evaluation mate's mates involvement resultant excessive response weird spaced forgetful can't cant stand simply strange knows embarrassment alienation *weird anything unfamiliar judged socially-culturally unacceptable irritates propriety group acceptability hence status survival *transpersonalization identified reflective myself judgement same similar preventing dwell biblical precepts self temperance slow avoid arousing know your limits triggers weaknesses re-evaluate before acting meditate judge rightly then appropriately build self-esteem god's gods world serve competence humility learn confront what prepared negotiate meet resistance develop heart ways lord listen voice conscience expression acting direct aggression *trespass violation space mental physical *personal domain consider under authority responsibility affection taste *aggression force without agreement *forceful overpowering circumstance will intimidation *intentional damage produce threat after using *threat implication defamation exposure loss passive aggression sarcasm insincere comments tone rebellion retaliation conscious sabotage projects mistakes forgetting slowdown subconscious retaliate framing everything though silence refusal share non-participation disinterest withdrawing inward repression holding back non-expression turning redirected expressing *inner passion need release resistance toward source expressing another object *built area lack fulfillment manifestation powerless difference mistaken *interactions interpreted inaccurately attributed intentional violations disputed mutual ownership *desired improperly executed *operations person's persons criteria adequate performance non-performance *projection mind-reading motive impugning malice hurt verbal release *dishonest sharing *vengeance *verbal abuse *refusal share overcoming face sources *admit *express *consider develop godly responses offense *humility *confession *forgiveness self *learn govern human *slow reactions process responding pray position *avoid mind experience trigger stop *ownership statements indicating *resist devil flee replace thoughts what's whats perspective understanding healthy concept *see their opinion fallible forgivable allow yourself mistake habits desires frustrations imperfection normal you're youre still acceptable member society humanity passions desire right tastes entitled getting *realistically evaluate talents into skills recognize unique contribution give fully excellence effective capable possible accept more less human *temperance restrain temptation instant outburst *vulnerability displeasure rather than revenge rumination addictions *request understand acted make tell believe *convert transformed message cleanse angry spirit *dwell those which lovely *pray miraculous transformation *act wise proper *meditate mentally re-run practice doing *have faith choose dwell *study righteousness model read bible thing based standard truth wisdom knowing insight consequences *people *god's *gods enforced harm *psychic action applied *righteous train *hurt feelings *damaged relationships self-concept bodies property causes injustice *godly evil perfected against unjust harm prevention future threat protective retaliatory prevent actual *want unfulfilled learned behavior modeling coping strategy events biology *neurotransmitter imbalance allergies chemical stimulation result from faulty perception does reality stimulated belief emotion communication judging properly righteous unrighteousness defined expressed support principles laws *when humans angered unrighteousness government leadership circumstances empower accomplishment justice stimulates problems difficulties obstacles reflection overcome manifest such emphasis slow wrath injustice poor quality missed opportunities fact necessary times must recognized author emotions *this free plan according perfect will *there purely there only application unrighteous reflexive unregulated quickly wants powerlessness insecurity compensated bravado offensive habitual cruelty manipulation \",\" romance resentment thomas abshier promise marriage most rewarding fulfilling human pursuits also possibly difficult well women attracted each other because inherent god-given desire complete themselves union with person opposite romantic lustful ecstatic ideal marital bliss dissipates time unresolved emotional pain associated incidents abuse hurt unsatisfied needs experienced both partners marital happiness happiness ultimately dependent upon mutually satisfying wants desires psyche created satisfied mutual experience events projects shared life another words highest drive present love romantic love complex phenomenon which including following have feeling emptiness loneliness incompleteness because some many feel great attraction affinity appreciation makes special like valuable needed worthwhile confident that more those will learn give take appropriate loving negotiations satisfy partner's believe character habits personality commitments intentions partner high caliber deficiencies annoying quirks flaws minimal their importance overcome grow even does change still wonderful contribution strength faith encouragement provide added stimulus help together full joyous sharing appreciated journeys easier richer burdens sexual satisfaction physical attributes abilities social status accepted admire appreciate very least accept adequate anesthesia sexual attraction often need attracts sexually people overshadow match they overlook problems related interests common values understanding implications debility awareness difficulties having one's ones when different types anesthetic blocks difference blunt sense criticality judgment point seeing large differences immaturity destructive being minor factors sadly marriage progresses flame fire dwindles realities personalities become apparent mental spiritual bonding inherently incomplete solo likewise engaged without fullness committed need-meeting relationship life set-up seduce into trap man-woman procreate strongest emotional-physical drives ambrosia dulls sensitivity imagine happy able this mate-creature brought lives meet tastes encourage living attaining dreams illusion broken realize your mate share recognize attempt expressed unexpressed shown herself unwilling unable support overcoming them thus arises heart these expectation never entire disappointment realization finally hits this betrayal contract made darkest hour there loss hope ever sick lead strong negative emotions behavior illness separation divorce desperate attempt meet needs resort various strategies restore hopes expectations anger harsh violent actions trying talents stop doing something offends start satisfies retaliate withdrawing demonstrate understand withdraw hoping create safe place where cannot escalation offense sequence person says partner let's lets call action stimulates sensitivities doesn't doesnt want happen again make sure score after felt result retaliates against reaction feels justified necessary purposefully hurts reaction order back real imagined then sequence begun usually escalation until someone retaliation next higher level unthinkable happens limits unnecessary every followed second step beyond after hurting administered inappropriate uncalled unjust there number reasons original action caused react habit justification simply acting reacting habit cultural norm grew parents siblings friends acted culture school club platoon race city state region nation could wrong? acts same around everyone else knows reacts circumstantial horrible thing younger economic deprivation learned impossible long deep patterns golden rule should compassionate unfortunate past difficulty changing things about irritates therefore just whatever when intentionally forceful gestures tones originally either unavoidable unintentional deserved case deserve whatsoever from beginning totally unjustified thus only interpreted aggression invasion escalates been believes ante raised aggressive malice originally teach lesson teaching parent good important lessons child rebel teaching first habitual unconscious letting know would unconsciously administers behaviors repent deeper transgression empty thoughtless understood small clearly crossed line intentional purposeful unforgiving malicious question debt unbalanced ledger repented willful violation victim fact obligated must show stand principle protect space enforce boundaries tacitly saying violate consequences what violated punish territory course recognizes going since intend begin gone over gentle kind patient requests better emotionally can't cant easily given grace isn't isnt giving under obligation attack message wasn't wasnt acceptable dominate situation cycle escalate yelling violence ultimate outcome retaliation repeating escalating continues submits leaves poor outcome illustrates futility inflicting getting what want hurtful work begs right getting met? short answer nicely expectant guiding principles your personal best performance satisfactory fair unto others responsible everything world rules learn studying bible prayer meditation wise godly counsel method work? offense started realized expected perfect mirror-clone motivations ability taste experiences motivation accomplishment valuation judgement morally offensive right relativistic truth type value system truly standard perfection live error actually absolute word situations mastered daily application enough judge accurately god's gods will apply often excellent inferior qualified shortcomings authorized unilaterally administer forms corrective stimuli produce changes fair problem comes judging correcting done negotiation request agreement punishment allowing opportunity choose intimately involved choosing punishment quickly transaction parent-child master-slave interaction such hierarchical transactions less intimate than respect partner-mate recipient correction treated object subject trained manipulated rather deserving consideration feelings pride autonomy self integrity well traits particular context example almost always forget garbage trip feet steps smack lips eating hear remember keep word matter humans mistakes fall imperfection controlling nervous body movements inhabit imperfect machine control none jesus controlled perfectly nevertheless charge strive master mind-body reap reward efforts pursuit willing narrow path engage hard effort required righteous start becomes routine begins reality replaces intermittent engagements dining movies sports limited structural lived polished face moods phases attitudes dispositions reactions romance acceptance belief never-failing nature come confrontation conflict unity inevitable lack used justify further daily death dream succumbing mundane routine everyday produces dullness boredom indifference gives antagonism chasm event ongoing causes dies turns resentment repulsion true inner believed knew trust commitment cause some irritating such unstoppable lost part creating maintaining problem from became force maintaining creating behave badly masochistic pleasure predicting repeatedly fail creative using miraculously hate much fear earnest imminent future serving lord receiving seeking kingdom heaven predictability character amidst variability behavior unrealistic expect radically outside normal spectrum gotten period circumstances exhibits described field mathematics known chaos theory states occurrence inside certain predictable extent falls within bounds said chaotic expression changing operating provides opening environment thrive unfamiliar learning automatic subroutines neuromuscular response center plan referenced guide through execution shock engaging insufficient pattern positive replace substitute plan change expectancy offending confronted truth spoken offender agree duress serve kingdom submit righteousness service today first written 2001 \",\" relationship therapy thomas abshier world complex already know everything about even smallest field knowledge when comes complexity individual human psyche interpersonal conflict literally impossible have answer every problem counselor still must intervene that helps ease pain move person couple toward state harmonious relationship naturopathic physician licensed counsel therapeutic modalities because background more like doctor engineer than typical psychologist from education life experience learned think flexible creative intuitive pictures convert those visions into words situations made elements each applying force creating outcome based summation forces applied evolving their similarity various types mathematical natural phenomenon charge distribution plate separation phases triple point liquid statistical chaotic plane slip material defect second order differential rapidly changing variable share personal vision tool understanding circumstance simply model understand dynamics situation temper extremely logical method processing categorizing with very fluid metaphorical process mother artist sense balance harmony rhythm raised christian accepted word standard young adolescence rejected christianity began searching concrete answers were given bible explored many other religions find intellectually satisfying explanation problems after years came back perspective able fully embrace abraham isaac jacob living yeshua jesus lord universe died sins brought reconciliation father holy foundational premise determining truth which judge righteousness attempt intent lessons teach metaphors proverbs principles guide coach teacher analyst friend everyone struggling meet challenges some some people sufficiently high functioning resourceful they appear need help everyone limit capabilities consider privilege honor resolve current experienced life's lifes through trials allows resonate dilemmas disappointments heartaches confusion dramas work another reach level skill resolving future approach system inborn patterns programs behavior instinct drive mind body action desires aversions heart desire satisfy avoid them mostly automatic instinctual wrong programming normal inverted desire-inversion does relinquish from responsibility moral manner rather such choose override passions principle such burdens common among humanity addict passion peace philanderer women thief gold each sanctify according righteous there personality view positive traits being right looking good winning undesirable include sloth inconsistency dissipation selfishness unbridled pride anger lust greed deep strong general innate drives excellent guides without temperance push excess inappropriate satisfaction naturally susceptible addictive needs duty maturing humans learn moderate emotional overriding will logic between physical often possible illustrate social interactions examples behave similar counseling someone else's elses seeing variables judging factors most significant recognizing play confirming assessment feedback then intervening solution these important part bringing patient place mental health foundations counseling ministry privileged journey person's persons reality just told what expert opportunity coached observed while attempting develop habits correcting improper trauma teaching family spirits rebellious choices arrives adulthood errors inversions desire-aversion profile obligation diligently reprogram requires miracle miracles come faith works this seek create space healthy mental-emotional where other's others boundaries concept rich full wide includes necessity psychic territory existence extends territory along hundreds different taste music color timing smells form texture thus offense affinity regard style speech emotion gestures when developed concerned neighbor's neighbors best interests same investment exert meeting negotiate contracts speak honestly feelings take after reaching agreements don't dont listen haven't havent listened understood result aloneness frustration control feeling hopeless ever having foundation solving knowing this means getting locked inside helping solve lack bring companionship emotions aversion begin flood overwhelm reason flooding happens survival stake threat great appears powerful associated become flooded there little room self preservation need-meeting behaviors time else considered until safety restored even full-fledged response initiated hard mates other impediments belief trying resistant changed away structure listener believes speaker deluded incompetent serious grasping initial presentation poor hurt frustrate retaliate imputation motives menagerie arises unable mutually satisfactory execute failure these necessitate engaging reparative therapy marriage goals understanding perspectives bringing under forgiving past transgressions repenting instances trespassing learning committing making changes character habit choosing doing imperfections executing perfect reasons keep quirks deficiencies thought judgment motivation continued error numerous ignorance better thinking acting living overwhelm prospect change being stuck quandaries having tried failed against temptations flesh capitulated embraced pleasures feeling victimized mate parents kids friends boss coworkers government satan life delicate environmental truly allow victimization conspiracies malicious selfish acts random convergence tempted reduce dimensional slogans responsible your just while broad maxims multidimensional imagine predict apply simple rules tension exercise care diligence daily walk remain unscathed clean upon hearing calamity college mine would into sterile pedestrian lives dirt fall hope cope embed souls reframe taxing circumstances stimulus actual stresses joys context love unseen been absolute free totally independent agents authority autonomy somewhat consequences make afoul god's gods laws automatically executed spiritual though cannot escape reaction cost self-will long term choice every intimately woven affect circle case usually interaction properly otherwise both continue matter before 100% accommodation eventually lose express pain warning signal soul inform feel partner stepped toes dance dancing metaphor master dancing levels assured eventual success happiness believe fact minds easily prove closing eyes nerve signals brain stop observer actually spiritually alive perceives consciously nothing outer spirit sees darkness stimulation light watches sight sound touch smell outside perceive internal advice concepts memories bias books prejudice hurts songs movies cacophony voice influences perception drama greater lesser degree moment altered superimposition voices goal should utter clarity absolute happened external plus accurate going first rule completely practical terms sure perceiving unless tell convinced viewpoint correct unbiased clouds private property except knows depths width inner interacting neighbor resist temptation obligated adopt want heard present position persuasively lobby appeals accuracy correspondence fairness benefits live effectively required actions produce fruit require tempered kindness consideration integrity govern intentions true standards stay open equal fervor willing incorporate evil stand definition small defined short benefit redefinition wants justify seduced illuminates picture enlarge largest whole grasp fits plan evil purpose destruction principality power supports wishes flourish principal currently constituted without polarity separating hate sieve building victory overcoming ultimately created unfortunate fated telling only lies dealt hand card table doesn't doesnt accentuate approached fear develops things always turn hoped planned godly throughout painful exalts deal joyously look limited can't cant fullness engage ongoing testing checking examining comparing views whom interact reality isn't isnt determined vote three components with enough listening self disclosure prayer meditation leading spirit fairly comparison tyrants impose source much people inherently heritage gift passion rises rebels anyone tries usurp god-given liberty most discord mundane violated apology confession punishment repay proper perpetrator justification badly honest mistake ignorant didn't didnt realize laws involved knew felt violation insignificant compared payoff chose instead path taking deserved times fair return taken justice hands attempted scales theft repaying again victim becomes feels justified retaliation perceived verbal parrying crosses line defending aggressor original transaction innocent handles aggressive retaliatory grounds claim rightful basis parties violators victims accusations wrongdoing sides giving never admitted repentance engaged nothing declared penance paid search objective conflicts party realities yours mine appreciate beliefs history perceptions really mutual compassion could seemed obvious resolution sincerely acknowledged hurtful assumptions lead easier forgive offending letting dependent subject particular until empathic connection struggle competition fight it's necessary vehicle miss serving sacrifice empty barren shallow emptiness second rule perfectly neither followed renewed immortal bodies probably break unequivocally judgmental saying certainty tentative statements hold posture strongly talking mean soft peddle morality declare unknowable judgments people's peoples things eternal that's thats speaks loud hear advocate convince brother precept evidence gatekeepers guard door impressed viscerally allied together enrolled firm decisions gives give focuses effort forcefully steadfastly reflect direction occur invoke faith operate concert happen either alone transformation evaluation recognition speaking decision thing action transformation grace passionately desiring reached progress acquire unhealthy inherent duality exists within pulls self-satisfaction thrill rebellion softly repulsed fearful exposed familiar dark entertain conscience dulled participate identify hearts energized unless vigilant snared hooks down depravity commitment compass hygiene prevents falling prey fate walked deciding transforms highest perfection rejects favor processes conceives evaluates operates real rational movement adopting clearly seen marginal pleasure typically destructive payoffs since substance deadens dulls extent sympathy complain treated crowd acceptance crave misapplied survival-pleasure-program-payoff amount lacking somehow helpful facts psychological theories scripture points ultimately conviction dwell replace many tools techniques used arrest submit resists unrighteous ways tempter flee reward surrender vigorous conscious final renewing receive last modified 2002 2009 \",\" inner thomas abshier public private relationships work health finances recreation self image situations status behaviors life will usually adequately perfect experience consistent happiness disturbances disappointments happen inconsistently unpredictably emotions drop hearts hurt strive stop pain happy disturbance continue desire remains elusive stopping important life better presence wealth resultant inner cannot based solely upon calming life's lifes waters holiness when sincerely follow scriptural precepts godliness leading holy spirit open yourself correction have done your best establish first foundation arises choosing god's gods righteous forgiven humble this state choose felt unhappy with injustice imperfection disorder loves creation creatures loving father children bring live lord lives observing participating flow imperfections diminishes while watching observes world fully involved participant foundational feeling observe like hold that christ consciousness being love even they play badly from perspective errors learn each mistake imperfect people random circumstances collide beautiful order smash feel their allow them teaching lessons dependent perfection base level goodness know righteousness thoughts speech actions enough give right heavenly here earth does acknowledge intentions slander false things appreciate call take possessions reputation service sacrifice story couple been they together thought were then affair couldn't couldnt overcome wanted break pregnant stayed carried acted defensive psychologized denial accusatory tongue strategy attack back sarcasm demand change justified reactions harsh words judgmental attitudes because wrong left taking child very leaving redoubled statemetns victimization protection personal cause blame having feelings more sure away behavior therapy case began when instructed repeat miror everything said hear clearly know understood \",\" jealousy judgment thomas abshier people often choose love match that challenges their basic values tastes desires possibly polarity interesting mysterious maybe soul desire challenge itself with problems associated difference regardless motivation choosing mate opposite type disparity taste habit method will produce pain held strong judgment strong condemnation axis life form action thought speech belief poison waiting other behave better replace bitterness unhappiness dissatisfaction moment replaced longing when behavior good right acceptable compatible pleasing problem change especially pervasive important patterns comes slowly adulthood never come spent joyful satisfaction endured unsatisfied heart leaves perpetual torment deficiency unmet needs wants leave hungry satisfying word deed coming from always fantasy would simply stop doing this start such case jealousy husband jealous wife ongoing friendship relationships befriended loved past roles just easily commonly reversed entertain friends lovers scripture personal sense feelings what feels relationship justification asking break contact fiance's fiances side feel have many people social person craves greatest happiness diversity being watched accused demanded little large network unhappy because affection appears expressed more fully deeply judged very real resolution such disconnect nature does expect embrace these ways restrictions common natural habits toleration actual need given there lust should neither acted upon dwelt entertained think speak manner truly friend-like difficulty regulating mind then talk confesses looks support emotions love this most techniques commands tips methods making marriage work bridging chasm incompatibility calming fires reactivity repulsion disappointment question love? answer elusive must experienced known hint searcher observe struggling foreign repulsive unique different fascinating understand going through life-struggle same mine it's trust your it's keep clean can't cant apart someone miserable find middle path godly faith find proper posture resonate struggle 2009 \",\" mind christ mind-body debate dualism thomas abshier june 2009 philosophers through ages have attempted resolve questions about nature substance mind matter fundamentally composed distinctly different substances? plato addressed this issue dualism versus monism mind-body debate most extreme philosophical apologists duality arguing universe only with external world existing reality within perception thus attempting question fundamental internal perceptions? there true outside perceptions even such cannot proven absolute evidence since also perceived mind? body issues second separate from body? creation changes must something allow changing manifestation consciousness dilemma between existence thing being-ness life changeability things theory absolutes resolved recognizing that father origin hologram every possibility resides perfection human holy spirit aspect godhead speaks directs their hearts satan spiritual embodiment lawful good proper significant meaningful because \",\" addiction power control thomas abshier 2009 summary this essays examines power from perspective that pursue satisfy desire itself love feeling pursuit this drug sense alters neurochemistry produces pleasure-inducing neurological response which motivates establishing ever-greater control over others with drugs result using abusing devastation life addict those around just like other addictive complex mixture motivators including anesthesia reduction conscience induction euphoria ignore negative effects self increase dosage obtain maintain euphoric pleasure pain relief question under consideration people want they willing impose draconian restrictions lives people? thesis examination enjoy seduced pleasurable sensations successfully alleviate produce provides introductory experience pulls unsuspecting youth adult into habitual strategy fascinated level deception engage indicates there something about makes feel special privileged create oppressive world will subject same hell creating lack understanding consequences enabling reason addiction indeed some need order happy? can't cant themselves lose when everyone else's elses freedom curtailed? what castro happy dictator poverty-stricken populace instead beloved leader free prosperous populace? only speculate possible answers more charitable possibility simply does understand certainly most benign motive oppressing imposing their ideas patterns upon full consequence actions must true since rational avoid than there always least an element putting long-term natural spiritual proper student history insight foresight diminishment beauty spontaneity resulting down centrally planned authoritarian society name security prosperity longevity thus include part addition theory oppress   but factors associated orwellian motivation party seeks entirely sake interested good solely wealth luxury long happiness pure know ever seizes intention relinquishing means establish dictatorship safeguard revolution object persecution torture begin george orwell 1984″ edmund burke those have been intoxicated never willingly abandon pursuing issue further effort find contribute to oppressive dictatorial behavior reminded population treated phenomenon over many years counseling impressed variety intensity passions that can overcome seen addicts pornography prostitutes infidelity eating alcohol smoking nicotine marijuana  heroin gambling shoplifting lying   these recognized dysfunction brought were seeking help release gripped hearts minds even error unable demons tormented souls  this says that a quit conscious inadequate forces also probably are controlled these following participation helped patients break chains looking back journey fallen major ways exposure intensely illicit against exerted little willful resistance because lack moral defense painful period pattern unresolved using resist case just likes substance therapy includes educating the massive eventually the end of the path necessarily elicit strength problem moral character commitment actually resisting avoiding temptation replacing positive behaviors choice man's mans laws universe support rationalization choose alternative god-given strongly connected visceral future present reality motivate evasive action clear stop ultimately saying treatment saying final necessary host supportive attitudes engaged replace habit satisfying vacuum created fill void unless very actively pursued return psychic space detoxification process stopping through detox withdrawal phase slow allows accommodation lower usage substances harmful weaning immediate total acceptable replacement weaker bridge while body accommodating addictive toxin stimulating effect spiritual cleansing finally component addressed spirit released resisted removed access room heart mind some conversion jesus lord savior leave instantly dramatic miraculous displays others remain vigilant door soul prevent relapse moment invulnerable weak helpless vigilance feeling strong time greatest weakness naturally high best sensation should releasing entire store endorphins once such cocaine heroin orgasmic rush provided holy physical mental emotional stimuli even better enough handle side trip type myopia seduction pride god-like invulnerability times countered wisdom look ahead bring ultimate outcome depression joyless recovery happen convert thoughts behaviors progress thought speech every inception take behind given inheritance children what right committed doing replace stand place past brings second category least anesthetize most common seeker exists errors structure cause wrong ungodly choices human nervous system feels pain of types sources the most poignant come guilty fear repeated violation flashbacks disturbing memories anger loss various deaden restore peace partially effective felt before starting fully relieve work then wear comes user becomes accommodated analgesia needs greater quantity different point dose number needed pushes edge death haven't havent anyone afflicted an political people who addicted over people events normal pedestrian taking of life irritants eliminating personal curative unregulated unrighteous environment properly exercised uses force restrict engaging proper correct boundaries appropriate properly between right optimum activation wisdom required judge unacceptable each person much make judgment applied both propel movement term excellent results disciplined boundary violating detoxification suddenly creates stimulation entrains particular emotions center when stops reinforcement retaliation discipline disciplining retaliation restriction produced symptoms last short coached withdrawing depreciating comments declaring victimization claiming unfairness unrighteousness showing child attempt exploit parent pass badly behaved give thanks show caring exert tough direct them onto requires courage transit gauntlet walk rebel the other of the reaction to discipline is lifetime fair relationship craves pleasant tones words familiar well ordered move comply efforts ideal making money great deal giving often quick used leaves hangover morning require temporary reaction regulation improper improperly exerting lust crave anything share attention resources cross play victim reacts defend territory struggle ensues aggressor defender tools personality social position presence affect seduce intimidate possess dispute eternal powers seek submission none continue rule indefinitely circumstances change dominated parties grow domination controller corrupt morally rebellious master initiates cycle rebellion  pain slave's slaves causes slave god-ordained state godly domain grows maturity recognizes inalienable rights where submits dies unsuccessful either agitated servant roles stages progression strive eliminate rather sanctify masters boss officials servants employees citizens honorable stations within bounds role likewise conduct himself dignity current assignment frequently perform script rightly each sanctification wish kindness reward labor compensation government business relationships manifest perfect balance appear context constitutional republic masses sensitive god's gods laws embedded discern elect wise govern philosopher kings politician shrewish housewife angry husband domineering lure resolving administering suppressive appears successful expression wrongly anesthetic intense balanced learn restraint application correctly irritating experiences typically imperfectly large suppression another person's persons energy improper typically face sickness seductive gives degree immediate situations acute environmental irritation takes little realize nothing asking nicely begging empty threats advantage passive presentation invade damage steal property disturb retaliate excessive improperly after finding method ineffective rebound worse only central almost invisible benefits become placid comfort receive enslaving iron bother instinct regulate easily perverted another's anothers public gifted public persona influence can exercise group class nation tyrant mind-heart spring from a random assemblage of seemingly minor traumas pleasures and pains respond link pain-relief teaching moderates strategies reduce gift attract hordes admiring supporters control-addicted agent perceived oppressors without validating connection legislation philosophical proposes misery follow recognizing possesses lesser spirits unpleasant extreme examples absolute stalin hitler caligula saddam convinced truth demonic spell inner vision utopia mankind righteousness addictions urges gone righteous until returns perfected rationality pulled away passion without to regulate naively step curiosity ignorance steps along usually first small steps righteousness unremarkable standing outside successful relief  and embolden young criminal farther readjusts worldview justify paradigm death slide perfection tempts larger doses completely drown re-experience complete fatal intoxication revised \",\" dissociative identity disorder thomas abshier 2009 joni diagnosed with pastor worked prayer counselor period years come place relative peace originally because extreme anorexic wasting condition having lost coming when tall obviously unable stop loss prescribed coconut cream acidophilous began marriage counseling adopted been molested older brothers date raped finance divorced after upon finding that bisexual pedophile daughters birth mother attempted kill womb beating pregnant abdomen childhood characterized being told wrong whenever tried defend against aggressive boundary violating behavior joni's jonis second husband fred raised emotionally rationally challenged between ended could longer tolerate fred's freds grumpy attitude toward deeply felt critical this produced intolerable pain which caused want inability digest supplements took edge gained weight back over several irritation demeanor still strong feel continue maintain health life stayed married suffered from extremely self image confidence ability judge punished severely family also spirit rejection murder those intra utero attempts thus problem came about attempting overcome bodily sensation guilt worthlessness depreciation like earth where belonged truly value both others lose herself confusion knowing whether right victimizers attributed sense state means there alter other personality went into aware fully different than desired conscious moral mature adult treatment overwhelmed fear would able resist falling believing confused without refuge allowed feeling result constantly quoting scripture trying remind righteousness wonderfully fearfully made knew while knit together course positive thinking dwelling promises valuable good transformative therapy bring pleasant mental getting constant negative thought tempted suggested following allow yourself fully observe position your watching soul when comfortable neutral observation change perspective opposite side choose worth high god's gods eyes know true keep forming holding rationalizing intrinsic until clear real intellectual level then return observing captured child world repeat procedure going forth realms many times repeating transition viewing effortless suffering point complete emotional simply chosen will commitment theoretical understanding therapy jesus died cross immoral himself worst possible experience unjustly killed then descending hell righteous death hold have resurected himself didn't didnt father hell heaven returned denying reality futile should give more power actually exert lives allow ourselves full leave anytime submitting minds very little ordinary circumstance exercises thoughts mind thus stimulate emotions most what temptations them given actions doing resisted devil feelings desires stimulated forces visitors residents much comes passions desire implanted remembered memories imagery these hook mean something incomplete allows emotion belief exist leaves susceptible temptation error incompleteness exists situations face don't dont understand implication message moment accused violation confess repent changing heart restore damage incorrectly accept condemnation grudge view victim cursed words beliefs around immobilizes rather activates preparation learned take unrighteous circumstances completion completion action internally externally pleasing nature commitment pathway fullness done best authority internal posture solid necessary taken teach lessons repair establish proper boundaries score justice balanced there only love compassion involved regardless their \",\" faith works	 thomas abshier 2009 irritation happens life flesh stimulated react defend attack satisfy pleasure avoid pain your mate friends coworkers boss employees relatives even strangers stimulate soul that comes from irritation frustration disappointment sorrow resentment greatest action pattern behavior which ultimate resolution cessation violation ongoing drip violations fairness about space time property emotional fulfillment purposes example shall assume following scenario hyper reactive things don't dont critical accusatory point carrying around attitude victimization speaks accuses condemns universalizes depreciates other ways violates your sense pride self worth value administering regular forceful criticisms current past expectant future actions justified since there germ truth associated with assessment character habits having noted plausible validity criticism immediately note lack love accusations perspective control condemnations what should done? certainly could good turn cheek apologize declare intent never violate this again such apologies usually dismissed derision depreciation continues confrontation reframing successful need forgiveness understanding person's persons view situation cannot needs directly requesting those thus when appeals rationality rejected know more gentle forgiving spirit appropriate response minor desired protocol taste preference then take offense higher court tell story share burden present case normal methods stopping getting justice filling heart satisfaction have failed temptation retaliate accuse tools warfare include sarcasm ignoring balking victorious will produce lasting satisfying peace joyous relational want marriage rather look inside being challenged totally though hurting love state elevated above hurt must myself place compassion gives empathy sympathy driving angry outburst make think feel currently behaving? skewed perception reality driven nevertheless been taken fact challenge heated moment maintain find spiritual center where transcendent possible finding perfect difficult acting words daggers drawn blood such outbursts come after innocent error forgetfulness well intentioned effort organize complete task what always done were able would understand offending held human frailty cases believe judging correctly wrong reacted extreme word force against perceived doing become actual violator absolute judge deed attempts diffuse anger confrontations futile explanations mitigating circumstance excuses blaming short processes circumstances unabated disregarded walking shoes behaved when proceeded further explanation confronting errors reasoning programming probably ineffective embark entirely different track faith works bring faulty judgment inappropriate speech god's gods responded efforts rational discussion little benefit pursuing same first step relieving crying telling unburden before great counselor punished unfairly dealt inappropriately misunderstood judged condemned wrongly longer heard injustice seek alternate method this there fighting revenge repaying teaching lesson standing rights these they won't wont into crying feeling knowing listening relate litany course desire proper only miracle best note improve skill threading needle reactivity neutral gradients lead through some allow superior process transforming occur occurs speak mitigation apology understood until open world outside feelings framing establishing rapport fail secret lord mediation deeply experience relive aside right relationship implicit within meditation prayer change righteous compassionate person meets felt spoken maybe internally fully lord's lords presence handled simply give perceptions feels does because caught consumed shaped thoughts pray eventually convicted transform embrace true meantime limited truly mistaken misjudged something absolutely personal transformation completed opens eyes transforms heals gradually awaken once seemed \",\" nightmares thomas abshier 2010 subconscious expression internal desire commitment pressure that been given actual external drives desires have planted there from birth they part genetic inheritance something implanted hearts life experience insight coaching resonates with sense beauty righteousness purpose word contract conscious beings choose drive inner being held will continue press outward until manifested action another analogue energy physics types potential kinetic energy associated mass motion static space called these transform into each other released convert captured compression such spring returning examination human condition mind note inside heart perform produce equivalent psyche within express itself real world when thwarted suppressed blocked prevented greater that like entity access resources motivation executive rights adults free remain inactive opposition powerful take control dream generating apparatus nightmares results would notification presence stagnant stifled contained resolution nightmare comes taking when psychic holding longer needs increase force through vehicle body resolving thus identifying interpreting symbols language properly bring consciousness habitual \");");
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