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Sexual Issues

By: Thomas Lee Abshier, ND

 

Sexuality is tightly entwined with survival.  A proper and right family bond insures that the most fundamental unit of the society is perpetuated both for economic survival, and for fulfillment of the emotional needs of commitment and companionship.  And, while sexuality does not necessarily lead to procreation, the very act is procreative at its essence.  But, God has made the sexual act desirable, and the body and experience of the opposite sex inherently enjoyable and desirable.  But, while the optimum experience of sex is enjoyment and desire, those experiences are the first and finest fruits of a vital body and new love.  Thus, when hurts accumulate, and the body degenerates, desire and response decay into neutral interest in sex.  As relationships deteriorate due to unskillful communications, selfish hearts, purposeful and thoughtless hurts, and unmet needs, the experience of sex may turn aversive.  Thus, when rehabilitating a marriage, it is important to consider the fulfillment of sexual relations.  

 

Diary of Sexual Satisfaction: To help solve the problem of sexual being sexually unfulfilled, keep a diary of sexual experience.  This is valuable in helping to identify the aspect of the marriage which is weak.  A healthy sex life may be the bonding point, the glue that keeps a couple together.  But, seldom is the psychic-emotional glue of sex sufficient to bond a couple without other intangibles such as common interests, vision, mutual enjoyment of the other’s presence and contribution.