Healing for the Body, Soul, and Spirit
Through Understanding, Wisdom, and God’s Power
Christian Counseling: Marriage & Family, Personal & Interpersonal Therapy
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Thomas Lee Abshier, ND
On Earth as it is in Heaven
Thomas Lee Abshier, ND
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Christian Counselor
Political Philosopher
Physicist-Theologian-Author
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Marriage & Personal Counseling
Medical Consultations
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1414 NE 109th Ave.
Portland, Oregon
(503) 255-9500
naturedox@qwest.net
The Process of Change
The Counseling Cycle includes 3 very definite stages of relationship. These stages are models for everyday life interactions and therapeutic intervention. These 3 stages give a roadmap for smooth relationship, and tools for recovery of relationship when breakdown has occurred.
Before behavior can be changed, it must be identified. When past offenses have been documented, they can be set aside for processing at an appropriate time.
Monitoring change, and identifying blockages to love.
Without rapport, there is no connection, and there is no compassion and mercy. The goal is to connect on the level of Head with facts, and the heart with feelings. When the heart is known, a burden is lifted because the load is shared.
Confrontation should be an experience of humility and sharing. Until the individual is convinced of his own error the confrontation is incomplete. Thus, all confrontation is ultimately self-confrontation.
Change, new behaviors, changed ways of thought, speech, and action is the ultimate goal, to create new behaviors that meet needs.
Understanding people, habits, interpersonal interactions:
Familiarity with a type offense can produce a type of phenomenon that we call mind reading or projection. The offense we see in other is not necessarily the person’s own habit or demon.
Last modified, 5/18/2009
