The Twelve Steps
1. We admitted we were powerless over the effects of our separation from God -- that
our lives had become unmanageable
2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood
Him
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our
wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to
them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would
injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and, when we were wrong, promptly admitted
it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God
as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power
to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening, as the result of these steps, we tried to carry
this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
1. We admitted we were powerless over the effects of our separation from God -- that
our lives had become unmanageable.
- Romans 7:18
- 17 But now, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me. 18 For I know
that in me (that is, in my flesh) nothing good dwells; for to will is present with
me, but how to perform what is good I do not find. 19 For the good that I will to
do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice. 20 Now if I do what
I will not to do, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me. 21 I find
then a law, that evil is present with me, the one who wills to do good.
2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- Phillipians 2:13
- 9 Therefore God also has highly exalted Him and given Him the name which is above
every name, 10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of those in heaven,
and of those on earth, and of those under the earth, 11 and that every tongue should
confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father. 12 Therefore,
my beloved, as you have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more
in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling; 13 for it is
God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure. 14 Do all things
without complaining and disputing, 15 that you may become blameless and harmless,
children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation,
among whom you shine as lights in the world, 16 holding fast the word of life, so
that I may rejoice in the day of Christ that I have not run in vain or labored in
vain.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood
Him.
- Romans 12:1
- 12:1 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your
bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.
2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your
mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
3 For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to
think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think soberly, as God
has dealt to each one a measure of faith.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
- Lamentations 3:40
- 37 Who is he who speaks and it comes to pass, When the Lord has not commanded it?
38 Is it not from the mouth of the Most High That woe and well-being proceed? 39
Why should a living man complain, A man for the punishment of his sins? 40 Let us
search out and examine our ways, And turn back to the LORD; 41 Let us lift our hearts
and hands To God in heaven.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our
wrongs.
- James 5:16
- 14 Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them
pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord. 15 And the prayer
of faith will save the sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed
sins, he will be forgiven. 16 Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for
one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous
man avails much. 17 Elijah was a man with a nature like ours, and he prayed earnestly
that it would not rain; and it did not rain on the land for three years and six months.
18 And he prayed again, and the heaven gave rain, and the earth produced its fruit.
19 Brethren, if anyone among you wanders from the truth, and someone turns him back,
20 let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save a
soul from death and cover a multitude of sins.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
- James 4:10
- 7 Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. 8 Draw near
to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify
your hearts, you double-minded. 9 Lament and mourn and weep! Let your laughter be
turned to mourning and your joy to gloom. 10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the
Lord, and He will lift you up. 11 Do not speak evil of one another, brethren. He
who speaks evil of a brother and judges his brother, speaks evil of the law and judges
the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. 12
There is one Lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy. Who are you to judge another?
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
- 1 John 1:9
- 5 This is the message which we have heard from Him and declare to you, that God is
light and in Him is no darkness at all. 6 If we say that we have fellowship with
Him, and walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. 7 But if we walk
in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the
blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin. 8 If we say that we have
no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins,
He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
10 If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in
us.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to
them all.
- Luke 6:31
- 27 "But I say to you who hear: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you,
28 "bless those who curse you, and pray for those who spitefully use you. 29 "To
him who strikes you on the one cheek, offer the other also. And from him who takes
away your cloak, do not withhold your tunic either. 30 "Give to everyone who asks
of you. And from him who takes away your goods do not ask them back. 31 "And just
as you want men to do to you, you also do to them likewise. 32 "But if you love those
who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them.
33 "And if you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For
even sinners do the same. 34 "And if you lend to those from whom you hope to receive
back, what credit is that to you? For even sinners lend to sinners to receive as
much back. 35 "But love your enemies, do good, and lend, hoping for nothing in return;
and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High. For He is kind
to the unthankful and evil. 36 "Therefore be merciful, just as your Father also is
merciful. 37 "Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall
not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. 38 "Give, and it will be given
to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put
into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back
to you."
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would
injure them or others.
- Matthew 5:24-24
- 21 "You have heard that it was said to those of old, 'You shall not murder, and whoever
murders will be in danger of the judgment.' 22 "But I say to you that whoever is
angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment. And whoever
says to his brother, 'Raca!' shall be in danger of the council. But whoever says,
'You fool!' shall be in danger of hell fire. 23 "Therefore if you bring your gift
to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24
"leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to
your brother, and then come and offer your gift. 25 "Agree with your adversary quickly,
while you are on the way with him, lest your adversary deliver you to the judge,
the judge hand you over to the officer, and you be thrown into prison. 26 "Assuredly,
I say to you, you will by no means get out of there till you have paid the last penny.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and, when we were wrong, promptly admitted
it.
- 1 Corinthians 10:12
- 11 Now all these things happened to them as examples, and they were written for our
admonition, upon whom the ends of the ages have come. 12 Therefore let him who thinks
he stands take heed lest he fall. 13 No temptation has overtaken you except such
as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond
what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that
you may be able to bear it. 14 Therefore, my beloved, flee from idolatry. 15 I speak
as to wise men; judge for yourselves what I say.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God
as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power
to carry that out.
- Colossians 3:16
- 12 Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness,
humility, meekness, longsuffering; 13 bearing with one another, and forgiving one
another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so
you also must do. 14 But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of
perfection. 15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were
called in one body; and be thankful. 16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly
in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual
songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. 17 And whatever you do in word
or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through
Him.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening, as the result of these steps, we tried to carry
this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
- Galatians 6:1
- 6:1 Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore
such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.
2 Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. 3 For if anyone thinks
himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself. 4 But let each
one examine his own work, and then he will have rejoicing in himself alone, and not
in another. 5 For each one shall bear his own load. 6 Let him who is taught the word
share in all good things with him who teaches.
- From "the Twelve Steps -- A Spiritual Journey -- A working Guide for Adult Children
from Addictive and Other Dysfunctional Families -- based on Biblical Teachings